4 Super Simple Tricks For Age Gap Dating—You Won’t Believe How Easy They Are!

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Tricks For Age Gap DatingThese age gap dat­ing tips might sound really basic, but they’ve been proven to work. Keep these in mind the next time you’re out with a suc­cess­ful older man, and you can be sure that he’ll be com­ing back for date num­ber two.

Age Gap Dat­ing Trick #1: The Power of Touch

Do you ever get but­ter­flies in your stom­ach when a hand­some man places his hand on the small of your back? There’s a rea­son why it’s such a smooth move for men in age gap dat­ing. There has been a lot of sci­en­tific research done on how touch sends emo­tional sig­nals and sub­lim­i­nal mes­sages that affect the recip­i­ent sub­con­sciously. For exam­ple, one 2012 study found that when men were touched on the leg by whom they thought was a woman, they rated the expe­ri­ence as more pleas­ant and even had more activ­ity in a cer­tain area of their brain. You can use this scientifically-proven tech­nique to your advan­tage in age gap dat­ing by sim­ply mak­ing phys­i­cal con­tact with him, but make sure it’s done sub­tly and infre­quently, oth­er­wise it’s just awk­ward. Try plac­ing your hand on his arm mid-conversation to help build the con­nec­tion between the two of you.

Age Gap Dat­ing Trick #2: Say Their Name

Haven’t you noticed that when some­one addresses you directly with your name you feel more impor­tant and more respected? The same thing goes for age gap dat­ing. Address­ing him directly will make the date so much more per­sonal, which means you’ll have a bet­ter shot at see­ing this man again. Drop­ping his name a few times through­out the con­ver­sa­tion (not in every sen­tence) not only shows con­fi­dence, but it also indi­rectly tells him that you’re pay­ing atten­tion and that you’re engaged in the date. It’s a great way to leave a last­ing impres­sion in age gap dating.

Age Gap Dat­ing Trick #3: Make Eye Contact

This is one of the eas­i­est, but most effec­tive ways to estab­lish a con­nec­tion with some­one in age gap dat­ing. And it’s been shown to stim­u­late arousal, which is a good thing when it’s com­ing from some­one you’re inter­ested in. You can also tell how gen­uine some­one is by look­ing them in the eye. For exam­ple, experts say that you can tell if a smile is gen­uine by whether or not their eyes nar­row, cre­at­ing lines on the outer cor­ners. Other stud­ies have also shown that eye con­tact makes you appear more con­fi­dent, sin­cere, like­able, and per­son­able. The trick to using eye con­tact in age gap dat­ing is with occa­sional glances, rather than star­ing your date in the eye with­out blinking.

Age Gap Dat­ing Trick #4: Smile!

Sounds sim­ple, right? But you’d be sur­prised at how many women for­get this fool­proof age gap dat­ing trick when they’re ner­vous or anx­ious, com­mon feel­ings when you’re meet­ing some­one new. Smil­ing is one of the few expres­sions with a uni­ver­sal mean­ing across the whole human species, and it’s proven to be contagious—several stud­ies have shown that when you see some­one smil­ing, it’s harder to con­trol your own facial mus­cles, mak­ing you smile, too. And smil­ing actu­ally makes you feel bet­ter, because it affects the neural process in your brain that acti­vates plea­sur­able emo­tions like hap­pi­ness. In fact, one study found that smil­ing stim­u­lates the reward mech­a­nism in your brain bet­ter than choco­late can. And if that isn’t enough to con­vince you that smil­ing more works in age gap dat­ing then con­sider this. Another study found that when you smile, you’re per­ceived as being more cour­te­ous, like­able, and even more competent.

What do you think: Do you have any other tricks that have worked for you in age gap dating?


Chillot, R., “The Power of Touch,” Psy­chol­ogy Today web site, March 11, 2013; http://goo.gl/wyyuP.
Gut­man, R., “The Untapped Power Of Smil­ing,” Forbes web site, March 22, 2011; http://goo.gl/hH1sr.

Rig­gio, R.E., “5 Secret Pow­ers of Eye Con­tact,” Psy­chol­ogy Today web site, April 3, 2014; http://goo.gl/wxJrZL.

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I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”