4 Ways to Land a Rich, Sexy Older Man…And Keep Him: Part 1

When I first met my older gen­tle­man, I was extremely intim­i­dated. He was a pow­er­ful man with a very strong char­ac­ter, but he also had a great per­son­al­ity. I’m not very out­go­ing, so I often come across as very shy at first. I still man­aged to land myself a great guy.

If you’re shy like me, you can actu­ally use this to your advan­tage. When you’re first poten­tially look­ing for an older man or sugar daddy, always keep in mind that you don’t want to come across as being too for­ward. You don’t want to put it right out there that you’re on the mar­ket for an older man with money—you’ll just end up look­ing like a gold dig­ger who’s only inter­ested in his money. Just because he is inter­ested in dat­ing younger women, it doesn’t mean he isn’t inter­ested in other qual­i­ties, like a solid emo­tional connection.

Also, avoid divulging all of your per­sonal prob­lems right at the begin­ning. Don’t make it imme­di­ately known that you’re strug­gling to pay bills or to make ends meet. You can both dis­cuss the details and work out some sort of finan­cial arrange­ment once you are com­fort­able with each other. You want to appear inde­pen­dent and capa­ble of tak­ing care of your­self, with or with­out a man. The words, “Will you buy me that,” may sound cute com­ing out of the mouth of a two-year-old, but not so much when it’s com­ing from a grown woman.

Another thing older men like is a woman who is intel­li­gent and con­fi­dent. But you don’t want to go too far. In my rela­tion­ship, my older man is in the legal field, and while he appre­ci­ates that I have a degree, it’s never a good idea to try and seem smarter than he is. Even if you have a PhD and you really are smarter than he is, there’s no need to make it known—the man has an ego and the last thing you want to do is bruise it.

Try­ing to out­smart them can be a huge turnoff for a lot of sugar dad­dies, espe­cially if they’re in the legal or med­ical fields. If he invites you to attend a work con­fer­ence or indus­try event with him, or even if he brings you around a group of his col­leagues, don’t try to talk over them unless you actu­ally have some­thing to con­tribute to the con­ver­sa­tion. Oth­er­wise, just lis­ten atten­tively and smile politely. Or if you’re uncom­fort­able, excuse your­self to get a drink or use the restroom.

There’s a lot more you need to remem­ber if you want to reel in a sugar daddy and, of course, keep him happy…

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About Amber C

As a married mother of two kids, I don’t have much time for the bar scene anymore. Hell, I don’t have much time for any scene anymore. So, when a few months ago I was invited out for a cousin’s bachelorette party, I happily accepted. The night started off at a local martini bar, and that’s where I ran into a former boss of mine. This man is a married, very successful lawyer, who has a drive that is unmatched by any man my age. We had a great rapport, and there had been so much chemistry between us, during all of our encounters. And when I saw him that night in the bar, I could tell that nothing had changed. After a few drinks, the bachelorette wanted to move on with her ladies to a popular club. I knew I would feel out of place at that club, and so Mr. Brown (as we’ll call him) offered to keep his eye on me and drive me home. His offer surprised me, but I told my cousin he was a former coworker and that I felt safe with him. And I wasn’t supposed to be home for another two hours, so no harm no foul—right? Soon after the ladies left, Mr. Brown suggested that we take a drive to see his new condo, and then I remembered his black Bentley and I didn’t resist.