When I first met my older gentleman, I was extremely intimidated. He was a powerful man with a very strong character, but he also had a great personality. I’m not very outgoing, so I often come across as very shy at first. I still managed to land myself a great guy.
If you’re shy like me, you can actually use this to your advantage. When you’re first potentially looking for an older man or sugar daddy, always keep in mind that you don’t want to come across as being too forward. You don’t want to put it right out there that you’re on the market for an older man with money—you’ll just end up looking like a gold digger who’s only interested in his money. Just because he is interested in dating younger women, it doesn’t mean he isn’t interested in other qualities, like a solid emotional connection.
Also, avoid divulging all of your personal problems right at the beginning. Don’t make it immediately known that you’re struggling to pay bills or to make ends meet. You can both discuss the details and work out some sort of financial arrangement once you are comfortable with each other. You want to appear independent and capable of taking care of yourself, with or without a man. The words, “Will you buy me that,” may sound cute coming out of the mouth of a two-year-old, but not so much when it’s coming from a grown woman.
Another thing older men like is a woman who is intelligent and confident. But you don’t want to go too far. In my relationship, my older man is in the legal field, and while he appreciates that I have a degree, it’s never a good idea to try and seem smarter than he is. Even if you have a PhD and you really are smarter than he is, there’s no need to make it known—the man has an ego and the last thing you want to do is bruise it.
Trying to outsmart them can be a huge turnoff for a lot of sugar daddies, especially if they’re in the legal or medical fields. If he invites you to attend a work conference or industry event with him, or even if he brings you around a group of his colleagues, don’t try to talk over them unless you actually have something to contribute to the conversation. Otherwise, just listen attentively and smile politely. Or if you’re uncomfortable, excuse yourself to get a drink or use the restroom.
There’s a lot more you need to remember if you want to reel in a sugar daddy and, of course, keep him happy…