When you tell people you’re in a relationship with a much older man, the first thing everyone wants to hear is the lowdown on the sex. Is it romantic, mind blowing, good, bad, or non-existent? Is it different being with an older man? Have you learned any new amazing pretzel-bending positions? Does he like to talk dirty?
You can hear your friends asking, “How could you give up dating hot, younger, wrinkle-free men that you actually have something in common with for a much older, wealthy, salt-and-pepper-haired man who prefers Miles Davis to Coldplay?”
Why do we do it? Because wealthy older men provide us with the most important thing: freedom! They provide their sugar babies with a steady source of income. They’re generous, supportive, and respect our boundaries. He isn’t invasive and doesn’t ask too many questions. Deep down, he just wants to know that you are in love with him. And for the most part, he’s careful to not rock the boat too much out of fear of upsetting you.
An older, wealthier man also knows how to please. You may not want to have sex with him every night—or even once a week for that matter—but when it does happen, he makes sure you have a leg trembling, toe curling orgasm. He’s a male—his orgasm is (almost always) a sure thing. Ours, on the other hand, isn’t.
Yes, ladies have needs. We love being desired, wanted, lusted after, and taken care of. What woman doesn’t want that? Most guys, on the other hand, love to impress women, whether it’s with jewelry, cars, trips, an apartment, clothing, or shoes. Older, wealthier men are no different. They’re just more attentive and devoted. We all sell ourselves in some regard; some days it’s our bodies, other times it’s our minds.
Of course, he has needs too, and we all attend to those needs; we’re excellent companions and lovers. The latter just happens (more often than not) when we’re ready to let it. Listen, you can’t be a sugar baby and be naïve; he thinks he can control the relationship with money, using it to steer it one way or the other. We know he can’t, because like it or not, the promise of sex—no matter how immediate or distant—trumps the power of money every time.
When it comes to having a relationship with an older man, it’s about quality not quantity, whether it’s in the bedroom or on Rodeo Dr. While our relationships are mutually advantageous, it’s reassuring to know there are certain things we’re in total control of. As sugar babies, we work our butt off giving him what he wants. But sometimes, we don’t want to work up a sweat.
We’ve done all the research, and this week, we’re going to be presenting a special six-part series to help you get what you want, without having to give in too much to what he wants in the bedroom.