6 Ways to Get What You Want From Your Older Man Without Giving Him What He Wants: Part 1

When you tell peo­ple you’re in a rela­tion­ship with a much older man, the first thing every­one wants to hear is the low­down on the sex. Is it roman­tic, mind blow­ing, good, bad, or non-existent? Is it dif­fer­ent being with an older man? Have you learned any new amaz­ing pretzel-bending posi­tions? Does he like to talk dirty?

You can hear your friends ask­ing, “How could you give up dat­ing hot, younger, wrinkle-free men that you actu­ally have some­thing in com­mon with for a much older, wealthy, salt-and-pepper-haired man who prefers Miles Davis to Coldplay?”

Why do we do it? Because wealthy older men pro­vide us with the most impor­tant thing: free­dom! They pro­vide their sugar babies with a steady source of income. They’re gen­er­ous, sup­port­ive, and respect our bound­aries. He isn’t inva­sive and doesn’t ask too many ques­tions. Deep down, he just wants to know that you are in love with him. And for the most part, he’s care­ful to not rock the boat too much out of fear of upset­ting you.

An older, wealth­ier man also knows how to please. You may not want to have sex with him every night—or even once a week for that matter—but when it does hap­pen, he makes sure you have a leg trem­bling, toe curl­ing orgasm. He’s a male—his orgasm is (almost always) a sure thing. Ours, on the other hand, isn’t.

Yes, ladies have needs. We love being desired, wanted, lusted after, and taken care of.  What woman doesn’t want that? Most guys, on the other hand, love to impress women, whether it’s with jew­elry, cars, trips, an apart­ment, cloth­ing, or shoes. Older, wealth­ier men are no dif­fer­ent. They’re just more atten­tive and devoted. We all sell our­selves in some regard; some days it’s our bod­ies, other times it’s our minds.

Of course, he has needs too, and we all attend to those needs; we’re excel­lent com­pan­ions and lovers. The lat­ter just hap­pens (more often than not) when we’re ready to let it.   Lis­ten, you can’t be a sugar baby and be naïve; he thinks he can con­trol the rela­tion­ship with money, using it to steer it one way or the other. We know he can’t, because like it or not, the promise of sex—no mat­ter how imme­di­ate or distant—trumps the power of money every time.

When it comes to hav­ing a rela­tion­ship with an older man, it’s about qual­ity not quan­tity, whether it’s in the bed­room or on Rodeo Dr. While our rela­tion­ships are mutu­ally advan­ta­geous, it’s reas­sur­ing to know there are cer­tain things we’re in total con­trol of. As sugar babies, we work our butt off giv­ing him what he wants. But some­times, we don’t want to work up a sweat.

We’ve done all the research, and this week, we’re going to be pre­sent­ing a spe­cial six-part series to help you get what you want, with­out hav­ing to give in too much to what he wants in the bedroom.