It takes more than an age gap to make a relationship a success. And, ironically, nothing proves that more than age gap dating.
The idea of a younger woman dating a much older man is not new. In fact, if ancient history is any indicator, age gap dating is the perfect combination. On one level, age gap dating is the innate ability of a young woman to find the strongest, most confident man she can to provide for her emotionally, physically, and financially. An older man with all these traits will also be able to provide her with genetically superior children.
Men don’t pick women with their eyes closed. Age gap dating is also the perfect scenario for older men. Being more visual, older men, when given a choice, are more likely to be attracted to a much younger woman than an older one.
There’s research to back it up, too. A study carried out by University of Gothenburg and University of Oxford looked at matchmaking ads displayed in newspapers and on dating web sites. The study found that men in all categories prefer younger women, while the majority of women aged 20 to 39 look for older men.1
Age gap dating can also add an extra kick in an older man’s step. Another study found that age gap dating prolongs a man’s life. Researchers discovered that men who marry a woman between 15 and 17 years younger can cut their risk of premature death by 20%. Choosing a wife just seven to nine years younger will reduce his risk of dying early by 11%.
While those looking on may disapprove of age gap dating and see it as being doomed to fail, for those actually involved in age gap dating, the age difference can provide more benefits than challenges; if it even matters at all.
Thanks to medical advancements with erectile dysfunction, age gap dating couples can really enjoy each other. New fertility treatments also mean women can have children later in life.
While age gap dating can mean a younger woman could end up taking care of her much older man later in life, chances are they were aware of this eventuality when they first got together. And maybe they decided that no matter what, it’s more important for them to be together than be apart.
At the same time, and let’s be honest here, sometimes there is an agreed upon tradeoff. She will care for him later in life, knowing that he is more financially secure and will provide her safety and security.
Age gap dating has its ups and downs, just like any relationship. For relationships to succeed, regardless of age, couples need to connect emotionally and physically, feel free to be themselves, be vulnerable, know they can make mistakes, and be accepted unconditionally. Couples also need to have fun, grow, and change together.
For age gap dating to be successful, couples just need to bridge the gap, meet in the middle, and enjoy each other.