Dating a Rich Man

Dating-a-Rich-Man-WorksAre you inter­ested in dat­ing a rich man? A lot of peo­ple would be quick to jump to the assump­tion that women who are only inter­ested in dat­ing a rich man must be shal­low, super­fi­cial, and greedy. But that couldn’t be fur­ther from the truth.

The fact of the mat­ter is that many women, whether they admit it or not, place a lot of impor­tance on money when decid­ing to pur­sue or con­tinue a rela­tion­ship, which is why a lot of women are inher­ently drawn to the idea of dat­ing a rich man—money may not nec­es­sar­ily be their first dat­ing pre­req­ui­site, but research has shown that it’s def­i­nitely on that list, and chances are it’s close to the top.

Proof That Women Are Drawn to Dat­ing Rich Men

A recent Asso­ci­ated Press-WE TV poll about Amer­i­cans’ dat­ing habits inad­ver­tently shed some light on why dat­ing a rich man just makes sense. The results showed that when it comes to decid­ing whether or not to date some­one, men are more likely to pri­or­i­tize a woman’s phys­i­cal char­ac­ter­is­tics, while women tend to place more empha­sis on a man’s finan­cial situation.

In fact, only 28% of the women sur­veyed said that they would be OK with dat­ing a man who made sig­nif­i­cantly less money than them, which pre­sum­ably means that the remain­ing major­ity would pre­fer to date a rich man. So, if any­one has ever told you that your dat­ing a rich man is shal­low, you can tell them that you’re actu­ally part of the majority.

The Appeal of Dat­ing a Rich Man

This research just goes to show that a lot of peo­ple still have very tra­di­tional views about courtship, and dat­ing a rich man caters to those tra­di­tional gen­der roles, which is still what many peo­ple are look­ing for in a rela­tion­ship today. Tra­di­tion­ally, women had to mate with men who were lead­ers in hunt­ing, gath­er­ing, and pro­vid­ing pro­tec­tion. In today’s day and age, dat­ing a rich man who’s ambi­tious and suc­cess­ful means dat­ing a man who has the money, and prob­a­bly the smarts, to be that strong provider that every woman desires.

Dating-a-Rich-Man-for-MoneyWhy Dat­ing a Rich Man Works

There is also proof that dat­ing a rich man can lead to a suc­cess­ful, long-term rela­tion­ship, because finan­cial sta­bil­ity is one of the biggest things that women take into con­sid­er­a­tion when decid­ing whether or not to marry a partner.

Another poll, this one by credit-monitoring experts Exper­ian Con­sumer Ser­vices, found that mar­ried indi­vid­u­als value a spouse’s finan­cial savvi­ness more than their phys­i­cal appear­ance. That’s why a whop­ping 95% of the sur­vey respon­dents regard “finan­cial respon­si­bil­ity” as an impor­tant attribute when con­sid­er­ing mar­riage, and yet another rea­son why women are more inclined to dat­ing a man who’s rich than some­one who’s just get­ting by.

What You Need to Know About Dat­ing a Rich Man

Once you start dat­ing a rich man, you should work on build­ing the foun­da­tion of a healthy, last­ing rela­tion­ship, just like you would when dat­ing any­one else. Hav­ing that extra income at your dis­posal is great, but money is not a replace­ment for love, hap­pi­ness, trust, or any of the other key fac­tors that help make a healthy rela­tion­ship work—dating a rich man can and should still have the under­pin­nings that char­ac­ter­ize any other more con­ven­tional relationship.

That’s why it’s impor­tant for the two of you to share a legit­i­mate con­nec­tion with one another, includ­ing com­mon inter­ests, val­ues, and goals. Dat­ing a rich man is easy, but dat­ing a rich man whom you actu­ally click with can be a lit­tle trickier.

If dat­ing a rich man to you is just a sim­ple, straight­for­ward exchange of his money for your time, that’s a whole other type of arrange­ment alto­gether, and these guide­lines may not nec­es­sar­ily per­tain to you. Your inten­tions are ulti­mately up to you to decide—and to each their own—but the best way to han­dle dat­ing a rich man is to treat the rela­tion­ship like you would any other. You should know what you’re look­ing for and what your expec­ta­tions are before dat­ing a rich man.

Dating-a-Rich-ManMan­ag­ing Your Expec­ta­tions When Dat­ing a Rich Man

There are a few other things to keep in mind when dat­ing a rich man. As men­tioned ear­lier, his money is def­i­nitely a plus, but it really shouldn’t be just about the money. Always remem­ber that the rela­tion­ship will only work if there’s a real con­nec­tion and if that con­nec­tion is mutual. If you’re only dat­ing a man for his money, you can only fake it for so long before he moves on to some­one who val­ues more than his deep pock­ets, unless, of course, he’s just look­ing for some­one to spend his money on, which brings us to the next point.

Every rela­tion­ship is dif­fer­ent, which is why when you’re dat­ing a rich man, it’s espe­cially impor­tant to know what both of your expec­ta­tions are going into the rela­tion­ship. Is he look­ing for a poten­tial life part­ner, or some­one to spoil and pam­per for the time being? Are you inter­ested in dat­ing a rich man to pay off some bills, or to set­tle down and build a life with? Whether your arrange­ment is a sim­ple exchange of his money for your time or a gen­uine rela­tion­ship based on mutual trust and under­stand­ing, you both need to be on the same page about it.

How to Be Suc­cess­ful at Dat­ing a Rich Man

If you’re dat­ing a rich man with the expec­ta­tion of mar­ry­ing him some­day, but he’s just look­ing for a tem­po­rary fix-up, you’re set­ting your­self up for disappointment—this is where com­mu­ni­ca­tion comes into play. The sooner you get your expec­ta­tions out in the open, the bet­ter it is for both of you. You wouldn’t want to waste your time with some­body who doesn’t want the same things as you, and when dat­ing a rich man, you owe him that same respect and consideration.

Assum­ing that you’re both emo­tion­ally and phys­i­cally invested in mak­ing the rela­tion­ship work, it’s impor­tant that you make sure that it isn’t all about you—it should be about him, too. A lot of women, whether they’re dat­ing a rich man or some­one within their income bracket, some­times for­get that men need a lit­tle ego boost once in a while.

There’s noth­ing wrong with acknowl­edg­ing his money when dat­ing a rich man, but show him that you value more than his bank account by tak­ing a vested inter­est in his life; cater to his inter­ests, ask him about his child­hood, and get to know more about his fam­ily. Not only will it make him feel good, but it will also give you some insight into who he really is. Yes, you’re dat­ing a rich man, but his taste in music and movies, for instance, can tell you a lot more about him.

Lastly, remem­ber to be appre­cia­tive when dat­ing a rich man, not enti­tled. He’s worked hard for his money, and prob­a­bly won’t bother spend­ing it on some­one who’s greedy instead of grate­ful. Plus, you’re not the only woman who’s inter­ested in dat­ing a rich man and who will jump at the chance to be with a great guy. Let’s just say there will be other fish in his pond if he feels like you don’t appre­ci­ate every­thing he does for you. Dat­ing a rich man is nice, but don’t take him for granted.