Dating a Sugar Daddy

Dat­ing a sugar daddy is a dream for many young women. Enjoy­ing life’s lit­tle perks, a sugar daddy helps pay for his sugar baby’s cloth­ing, shoes, acces­sories, trips, bills, and rent. Yes, it’s quid pro quo: dat­ing a sugar daddy means mak­ing him feel younger and being his eye candy and his bed­spring kiss.

When it comes to the modern-day sugar daddy, few could com­pete with Anna Nicole Smith. When the 27-year-old strip­per wed her 89-year-old oil tycoon, many said she’d landed the ulti­mate sugar daddy. Her rever­sal of for­tune is what leg­ends are made of. She was, in many people’s eyes, the ulti­mate gold dig­ger, sell­ing her­self out for the almighty dollar.

Accep­tance of the sugar daddy lifestyle all depends on the address, though. It’s one thing for a poor girl hail­ing from a small Texas town to land a sugar daddy. Find­ing a wealthy bene­fac­tor to bankroll your extrav­a­gant lifestyle while mak­ing a moun­tain out of a mole­hill on real­ity shows like “The Real House­wives of Atlanta” and “The Real House­wives of Orange County”—well, that’s a totally dif­fer­ent story!

Yes, the stereo­type of a sugar daddy has changed. No longer is he a wealthy, wheelchair-bound elderly man or a sports car-driving geri­atric with a bad comb over. Today’s sugar daddy is a much younger mil­lion­aire look­ing for the same things as everyone—to find a young, intel­li­gent, cre­ative, out­go­ing, vibrant, beau­ti­ful, and sexy woman he can lav­ish and con­nect with.

The mod­ern Amer­i­can sugar daddy is 39 years old and earns around $273,000; that gives his sugar baby $5,100 a month, or over $61,000 per year. The new mil­len­nium sugar daddy in Canada is 38 years old, makes about $271,000, and helps out his sugar babe to the tune of $4,300 per month. Sun-kissed sugar dad­dies in Aus­tralia aver­age just 40 years of age and earn approx­i­mately $223,679 annu­ally. Sugar babes Down Under can look for­ward to tak­ing home over $3,500 per month.

While those look­ing in may dis­ap­prove of age gap dat­ing and see it as being doomed to fail, for those actu­ally involved in age gap dat­ing, the age dif­fer­ence can pro­vide more ben­e­fits than chal­lenges; if it even mat­ters at all.

Thanks to med­ical advance­ments with erec­tile dys­func­tion, dat­ing a sugar daddy can lead to amaz­ing (mostly) spon­ta­neous sex! New fer­til­ity treat­ments also mean women can have chil­dren later in life.

While dat­ing a sugar daddy can mean a younger woman could end up tak­ing care of her much older man later in life, chances are they were both aware of this even­tu­al­ity when they first met.

At the same time, and let’s be hon­est here, some­times there is an agreed upon trade-off. The sugar babe gets to enjoy all the perks and priv­i­leges of being with her sugar daddy and under­stands that she will care for her sugar daddy later in life, know­ing he will take care of her financially.

Dat­ing a sugar daddy has its ups and downs, just like any rela­tion­ship. For rela­tion­ships to suc­ceed, regard­less of age, cou­ples need to con­nect emo­tion­ally and phys­i­cally, feel free to be them­selves, be vul­ner­a­ble, know they can make mis­takes, and be accepted uncon­di­tion­ally. Sugar dad­dies and sugar babies need to have fun, grow, and change together.