Does He Like Me?” 7 Signs That Older Man Is Into You

It’s safe to assume that at some point in her life, every woman has looked at a guy and won­dered, “Does he like me?” Or, “Does he have a crush on me?”Even in an age gap dat­ing, it can some­times be hard to tell what an older man is think­ing, because no mat­ter how old they get, some men just aren’t the best at openly dis­cussing their feel­ings. Wouldn’t it be nice if you could proudly say, “Those are def­i­nitely signs he likes me,” instead of always ques­tion­ing it?

Luck­ily for you, we’re always here to help sim­plify your age gap dat­ing drama. Even though he might not come right out and declare his undy­ing love for you, there are cer­tain ways you can tell that your age gap dat­ing game is headed in the right direc­tion. Here are seven note­wor­thy signs he likes you.

1. He Com­pli­ments You

Researchers at the Uni­ver­sity of Kansas recently did a study to find out what peo­ple do when they’re try­ing to flirt with some­one. If you’ve ever asked your­self, “Does he have a crush on me,” in your own age gap dat­ing tri­als, these find­ings can def­i­nitely help you fig­ure it out. Accord­ing to the study, if a guy likes you, he’ll drop com­pli­ments and be very affir­ma­tive with you within the first few min­utes of meeting.

Com­pli­ments are one of the most tell-tale signs in age gap dat­ing that he likes you, because it shows that this older man is notic­ing per­sonal things about you, whether it’s about your appear­ance or per­son­al­ity, and he wants you to know that he notices. Every­one pays com­pli­ments now and then just to be nice, but if a guy likes you, the com­ments will be more per­sonal. For exam­ple, instead of say­ing, “Nice shirt,” he’ll say some­thing like, “That shirt looks really great on you.”

2. He Makes Eye Contact

Although com­pli­ments are good signs he likes you, they’re not always enough. Instead of pon­der­ing, “Does he have a crush on me,” you can also look for cer­tain signs in your older man’s body lan­guage that show he’s inter­ested. One of the most impor­tant body lan­guage signs he likes you is eye con­tact. The sur­vey by researchers at the Uni­ver­sity of Kansas also found that if a guy likes you, he’ll gaze at you through­out your con­ver­sa­tion, espe­cially around the seven to nine-minute mark.

Mak­ing occa­sional eye con­tact is how peo­ple con­nect with one another, whether it’s in a pro­fes­sional set­ting or a more per­sonal sce­nario like in age gap dat­ing. It also shows that your older man is lis­ten­ing, which is an indi­ca­tion that he’s inter­ested. Another recent study, this time from the Uni­ver­sity of Chicago, clearly demon­strated why eye con­tact is one of the most impor­tant signs he likes you. The study found that when peo­ple expe­ri­ence feel­ings of roman­tic love rather than just sex­ual desire for a poten­tial part­ner, they fix­ate on the person’s face rather than on their body.

3. He Asks Ques­tions and Remem­bers Details

If a guy likes you, he won’t just lis­ten to what you’re say­ing, but he’ll actively engage in the con­ver­sa­tion by ask­ing ques­tions. This is an older man’s way of show­ing you that he has a gen­uine inter­est in get­ting to know you.It’s one of the most obvi­ous signs he likes you because he’s mak­ing it a point to invest the time and effort into learn­ing about all the lit­tle details that make you who you are.

It’s an even big­ger sign that he’s inter­ested if he remem­bers the small­est details you share with him. For instance, you might men­tion in one of your con­ver­sa­tions that you like a cer­tain type of food or activ­ity. If a guy likes you, he’ll keep it that point in mind the next time he’s tak­ing you out.

4. He Makes Phys­i­cal Contact

Never under­es­ti­mate the power of touch when it comes to age gap dat­ing. If an older man really likes you, he’s going to want to make phys­i­cal con­tact with you, whether it’s through an inten­tional hug or by instinc­tively putting his hand on your back or shoul­der to lead you through a door. The touch could be delib­er­ate or intu­itive, but in either case, it def­i­nitely tops the list of signs he likes you.

Sev­eral stud­ies have shown that phys­i­cal con­tact can effec­tively com­mu­ni­cate a wide range of emo­tions, some­times even more than other body lan­guage cues. So if he “acci­den­tally” brushes your hand through­out din­ner, there’s a good chance that he’s got his sights set on being more than friends.Just like you’re look­ing for signs he likes you, he prob­a­bly is, too. So rec­i­p­ro­cate with sub­tle touches of your own to show him that you’re just as interested—it’s a sure­fire way to get ahead in age gap dating.

5. Other Body Lan­guage Signs

Smil­ing sends a uni­ver­sal mes­sage, which is why it’s by far one of the most straight­for­ward signs he likes you. If an older man flashes a big grin when he first sees you and is always smil­ing when he’s around you, it’s def­i­nitely a pos­i­tive thing. If he’s smil­ing while main­tain­ing eye con­tact, even better.

There are a few other signs in his body lan­guage that show he’s into you. If a guy likes you, he’s more likely to point his feet towards you and main­tain an open posi­tion while he’s around you, like keep­ing his arms uncrossed. It’s also a good sign if he leans in toward you when you’re talk­ing and mir­rors your body language—if you’re sit­ting relaxed in your seat, he will be too.

6. Talk­ing About Future Plans

Pay atten­tion to what he says for even more signs he likes you. If he’s includ­ing you in future plans, it’s a pretty clear indi­ca­tion that he sees a future with you in it. We’re not talk­ing about wed­ding plans, but even sim­ple com­ments can be indica­tive, like if he says, “We should check out that fes­ti­val this sum­mer,” or he men­tions some­thing in June about doing Christ­mas activ­i­ties together.

In age gap dat­ing, he might not come right out and say it, but if a guy likes you and makes com­ments like this about the future, it means that he envi­sions him­self being with you. It shows that even if it’s sub­con­scious, he’s plan­ning ahead, and if he’s includ­ing you in those plans, it’s a good sign that he sees long-term poten­tial with you.

7. He Initiates

Is he the first one to make plans, and does he always call you first? Then stop ask­ing, “Does he have a crush on me?” He’s def­i­nitely into you. These are signs he likes you, because he’s clearly not wait­ing around for you to make the first move, and chances are he doesn’t want to risk los­ing his shot with you. A lot of older men don’t have a prob­lem with being proac­tive to get what they want. He’s prob­a­bly got enough friends and if he’s always call­ing and ask­ing you to hang out, there’s a good chance that he’s got an ulte­rior motive.

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