How a Stranger’s Lip Gloss Cost My Husband $26,000: Part 2

We arrived at the club just as my husband’s strip­per was about to dance her first set. It was a week­day evening, and so the club was not crowded. After her first dance, the gen­tle­man sit­ting at the table next to ours pur­chased a lap dance for me—from her. He had no idea how explo­sive the Pandora’s Box was that he was open­ing. But this gentleman’s gift worked per­fectly into my plan. My husband’s strip­per came over and gave me the lap dance, and when she was done I told her that I wanted to go to VIP with her and sev­eral girls. I had also asked for the club’s man­ager to come over to our table, and when the man­ager arrived I handed her my husband’s unlim­ited Amer­i­can Express credit card. I had a card con­nected to his account; how­ever, the account was his respon­si­bil­ity to pay. I gave the man­ager my sweet­est smile and instructed her to send over the girl who had just danced for me, plus sev­eral other dancers, to the VIP room, where I would meet them. And I did not stop there. In addi­tion to the VIP ser­vice, I asked her to serve Cristal cham­pagne to all the patrons in the club until clos­ing time.

Also see: How A Stranger’s Lip Gloss Cost My Hus­band $26,000: Part 1

When my friend and I arrived in the VIP sec­tion, my husband’s strip­per sat me down, and then sat on my lap, and asked me what I wanted her to do. I looked at her, and then grabbed her by both arms: I told her to do to me exactly what she had been doing to my hus­band over the last two weeks. She shook free from my grip, and jumped up and ran to pre­sum­ably phone my hus­band. How­ever, before she could make the call, the club’s man­ager per­suaded her back to our VIP room. I had way too much cham­pagne that evening, but I do recall that at the end of this revenge-filled evening, I was brought a bill that was well over $26,000. I tipped gen­er­ously and signed the receipt.

When I arrived home, I went into the kitchen and smacked the receipt down on the counter. My hus­band picked it up and looked at it, his eyes grow­ing wider and wider the fur­ther down he read, until finally he began to yell at me. My son heard the com­mo­tion and came down the hall. His response to the brouhaha was that at least the out­landish bill was cheaper than a “revenge lay.” How­ever, lay wasn’t the word he used. My hus­band was incred­i­bly angry with me, which, quite frankly, I deserved. I wasted a heck of a lot of money get­ting sat­is­fac­tion from revenge for his cheat­ing. The revenge did feel good, and that cham­pagne cer­tainly tasted good…but, look­ing back, it was not my finest deci­sion. I could have bought a small car for what I spent that evening.

As I relayed this story to the Stet­son man, I could see the intrigue in his smile. He explained that he had never been to a gentlemen’s club. On this plane trip, we hap­pened to be fly­ing to Vegas for his birth­day. I had been won­der­ing about what to get for the man who seemed to already have every­thing. Of course, his response after hear­ing this stripper-revenge story was that he wished for us to share his first VIP strip club expe­ri­ence that week­end. The Stet­son man and I did not spend any­where near $26,000 that night in the strip club, but we also did not stay in the VIP sec­tion very long before we left for the pri­vacy of our hotel room.

How­ever, after hear­ing sev­eral of these sto­ries from my past, the Stet­son man began to unfairly apply them to our own rela­tion­ship, and over­re­act to any dif­fi­cul­ties we had between us. At times, when things were a lit­tle uncer­tain between us, he would change lock codes at the man­sion and cut off credit cards, for fear that I would do to him what I did to my ex. Time passed, though, and the Stet­son man finally grew aware that he was safe in our rela­tion­ship, and I also learned to be selec­tive about what I would share from my past.

  • mane­stro

    So let me get this straight: You got revenge on your sec­ond hus­band for cheat­ing on you but you have no prob­lem jet set­ting around the world in the pri­vate plane of a mar­ried man???? Take a look in the mir­ror, you self­ish hypocrite.

    • Jenn Uknowit

      were did it say the guy was married?

      • Chao

        In Part 1.

      • Jason

        The very first line of part 1 “The Stet­son man, my mar­ried lover,”

    • diablo135

      And com­mit­ting credit card fraud

      • Isabella Mock­ery

        Just how do you get credit card fraud out of the fact that she had access priv­i­leges on the card?

    • Tay­lor Wiish

      The mar­ried lover could have an open rela­tion­ship with his wife.…i imag­ine its really hard to hide an affair involv­ing man­sions, pri­vate jets and credit card access. ..

  • San­ity

    Stet­son man finally grew aware that he was safe in our rela­tion­ship, and I also learned to be selec­tive about what I would share from my past.”

    Stet­son man is clearly not safe in your “rela­tion­ship” — no man would be and your hus­band cer­tainly wasn’t — so I pre­sume the change came about when you started hid­ing your true self from him by cen­sor­ing details of your past behav­iour. Good luck hold­ing down a rela­tion­ship on that basis, though, Lit­tle Miss Bor­der­line. I don’t blame your hus­band for play­ing away from home — life with you must be hell. And for you to put your poor son through all this — what kind of a mother would do that? The prob­lem is not your hus­band. The prob­lem is you.

  • Jen Jones

    What piece of **** did I just read, and what is wrong with that woman?

  • betty B

    what a waste of $26k. I would’ve got­ten myself new shoes, clothes, makeup, and a no expenses spared day at the spa/ salon for me and my 3 best friends

    • Melissa Knight-Lee

      I think i would have to agree. Maybe even plas­tic surgery for that price lol. I mean it sucks her hus­band was mess­ing around with a strip­per but that’s really not good revenge to me. Just my opinion.

    • diablo135

      It’s called credit card fraud. That kind of crap raises costs for everyone.

      • Crim­son Fox

        No, it was a joint account. So, not fraud.

      • Isabella Mock­ery

        Nope, she had joint access to that credit card. That is not fraud.

  • carbonated_turtle

    I ran­domly stum­bled upon this, and didn’t read part one, but I was glad I didn’t waste any time on this idiocy after read­ing “We arrived at the club just as my husband’s strip­per was about to dance her first set.”

    What­ever you meant by “my husband’s strip­per”, makes you and you’re hus­band douche bags. I’m not even close to being a prude, but peo­ple whose lives revolve around only sex and slut­ti­ness are use­less wastes of space.

    • Car­ley Scott

      And who are you to judge some­one else for whether they like sex? You’re closer to prude than you think.

    • Kayla

      You didn’t want to waste time read­ing three rest of it, but doesn’t the time to type a pretty long com­ment? That makes absolutely no sense.

      • SJF2

        Nor does your post… Do you proofread?

  • Janet Davis

    So, her hus­band cheated…she took his card, blew a CRAZY amount of money at the very strip club his “lover/stripper/girlfriend worked at to get revenge. That’s the crux of it, isn’t it?

    I agree, I could think if a ton of bet­ter ways to spend $26,000.00, but as far as revenge schemes go? This was choice. She could’ve done a lot worse to him…things that involve humil­i­a­tion, van­dal­ism, blood­let­ting, etc., etc.. Instead she chose to book it to his gentlemen’s club & fly through his cash get­ting his “daily spe­cial”, expe­ri­enc­ing first hand what he enjoyed rather fre­quently. It could’ve been MUCH MUCH WORSE.

    He DESERVED WORSE. He cheated, he deserved it. So why is she being per­se­cuted because she retal­i­ated due to HIS CHEATING. I’m will­ing to bet that if had kept his “John­son” in his pants she wouldn’t have done what she did. She’d have had no rea­son too. The rea­son she went to the club was b/c he was “dick­ing” a strip­per who worked there. There­fore if he hasn’t been doing that she’d have had no rea­son to go to that club at all.

    So, his fault, hands down. As for the afore­men­tioned “Stet­son Guy”, why is every­one assum­ing she hooked up with this guy while still mar­ried? Who’s to say “Stet­son Guy” didn’t enter the pic­ture AFTER she divorced/separated? That makes more sense, espe­cially con­sid­er­ing that after she tossed $26,000.00 on the ex’s AMEX card it should be obvi­ous that she didn’t really care about stay­ing mar­ried to him.

    Word of advice though to the poster: It’s not always a good idea to share revenge sto­ries with new beaus, actu­ally, it’s NEVER a good idea to do that. Something’s are best kept to yourself.

    In the end though, hubby got what he deserved.

    Cheat­ing Hus­band = 0

    Spurned Wife = 1

    Guys, (AND Gals) you’d be sur­prised what keep­ing it in your pants will do for your bank account.….

    And I’m shocked that a woman would EVER defend a man for this, much less call a woman crazy for seek­ing revenge. I guess it’s easy if its not YOU on the receiv­ing end, but I won­der would you feel the same if it were YOU that was being cheated on.…

    • betty B

      If my hus­band cheated on me, I’d spend the $26k on myself, not on the whore he messed with. Her revenge was lame.

      • Isabella Mock­ery

        Yup, I would have bought myself a new car or a down pay­ment on a sep­a­rate res­i­dence for myself only./

    • San­ity

      The prob­lem is that you don’t know what his cheat­ing was retal­i­a­tion for. She’s keep­ing that one quiet — but this arti­cle gives you a pretty good idea of what kind of woman she is. That you advise lying in future rela­tion­ships about past “revenge” behav­iour gives me a pretty good idea what kind of woman you are too. Hint: if you’re lying or hid­ing stuff about your­self so he doesn’t run, it’s not a rela­tion­ship. But at least your advice shows that deep down you do in fact know what’s wrong with this story.

      • Jenn Uknowit

        there’s no excuse for cheating…revenge??? really??

    • BeejE

      The rea­son we all ‘assume’ she is cheat­ing is because the same poster, Ms “Julz Afflair”, also wrote a long series of posts about her manip­u­la­tive
      scheme to find a wealthy older man to take care of her before divorc­ing
      her hus­band. Stet­son man is mar­ried, too, a fact which doesn’t bother Ms
      “Afflair” in the least. Read her post about shop­ping at Victoria’s
      Secret to see how much stock she puts in other people’s rela­tion­ships
      and mar­riages. She lit­er­ally flaunts her infi­delity in front of Stet­son
      man’s wife, and seems to blame her aging for her husband’s cheat­ing. A
      bonus: it con­tin­ues Ms “Afflair“‘s odd obses­sion with lip gloss. For the
      record, I know that this par­tic­u­lar post was oddly pro­moted across
      mul­ti­ple ‘social reader’ type sites, but you should be aware that
      basi­cally this entire web site cen­tres on glo­ri­fy­ing cheat­ing. I think
      you have found your­self in the wrong cor­ner of the Inter­net, darling.

    • Jedidiah Bird

      Yes, she started see­ing him after the divorce, how­ever, she causes Stet­son man’s wife to go through even worse than she had to go through.

      Not only that, she caused her son to com­mit sui­cide (read some of the later posts where she talks about her son dying.)

      • Kay-El

        where’s that arti­cle? I don’t even see who the author is for this

    • Sarah

      The Stet­son guy was mar­ried when they got together. It’s the first line of the story.

    • Genevieve D

      Gosh you’re an idiot. She got mad at her hus­band for cheat­ing but has no qualms about doing another woman’s hus­band and allow­ing him to cheat. What a hyp­ocrite. To pun­ish some­one for cheat­ing and then being a home wrecker at the same time.

    • SJF2

      And I hope the wife of the Stet­son man is as under­stand­ing as you are and that she calls up the post­ing bimbo and they have a pity party, dream­ing up ways to pun­ish that “bas­tard” that couldn’t keep his John­son in his pants. If he just would have kept his John­son in his pants… Ya, he is sooo despi­ca­ble and she has a right to hate him and pun­ish him… Wait… wouldn’t the Stet­son man’s life and that of his wife have been sooo much bet­ter if the poster had the com­mon sense to not rest her ankles in her hoop earrings?

  • OMG

    for those of you that are stu­pid and can’t fig­ure this out … Stet­son Man is the man she was see­ing after her and her hus­band BROKE UP … this is her sec­ond rela­tion­ship … if you read “for fear that I would do to him what I did to my EX

    • BeejE

      Wrong. Read her other posts. She specif­i­cally went look­ing for a new lover before she divorced the husband.

  • Savta Pur­ple

    Well you could have got­ten into a three­some and had some fun. Your hus­band has prob­a­bly not seen you like that. I agree a spa date for me and a min­i­mum of at least 3 friends.

  • Mike Alan

    You don’t believe this bs, do you? Most peo­ple don’t have an extra 30k credit on their cards

  • Bev­er­ley Hamer

    I just loved this story, wish I could have thought of some of that. But I was never given the card in the first place,

  • Nikki

    To get revenge against your hus­band at the time for cheat­ing with a strip­per you… paid her & the peo­ple at the club who con­doned the adul­ter­ous behav­ior? You paid her for help­ing your hus­band cheat not taught her a les­son. Doubt she was deterred from repeat­ing that type of behav­ior. More likely did it even more hop­ing to bring in more thou­sands for her­self & her work­place. Every­one in the VIP room & the club owner prob­a­bly com­mended her for the help & extra dough. I’m all for the revenge part, against them both. And the wast­ing his $ for doing it, but there were bet­ter ways that could have ben­e­fited you bet­ter & not rewarded her.

    • DrMichael

      Revenge is petty and stu­pid, and only illus­trates some of her very many char­ac­ter flaws that led this man to stray in the first place.

      • SJF2

        Ditto! Every story has two sides and I will guar­an­tee that this woman is not being truth­ful about some, most or all of the real story. I believe that we would hear an entirely dif­fer­ent story from her hus­band — not to say his story would be any more truth­ful but it would be vastly dif­fer­ent. It would be inter­est­ing to find out which of her char­ac­ter flaws (good, con­densed descrip­tion!) caused her first divorce. The gall of that woman to judge her husband’s (sup­posed) behav­ior when she com­mits the exact same adul­ter­ous act as the (sup­posed) strip­per. And, if she is run­ning around with a rich man who has given her credit cards (plural!!) and let her live in his man­sion, she is far worse than the strip­per. Then to rattle-off her bizarre sex­ual behav­ior, in the guise of a “poor me” story, to the point where she gets this poor guy hot, thereby ensur­ing that she has him mes­mer­ized with her hump­ing prowess. Her hus­band may have had a tryst with a strip­per but it sounds like the Stet­son Man got him­self a hooker.

  • Jenn Uknowit

    I think its awe­some! per­son­ally i would have added to it an went to a male trip club, i wouldn’t want all that nasty ass near me. And a full on shop­ping spree before i left his nasty ass!

  • Defi­ant

    Um…how is putting your fam­ily $20K in debt revenge against your hus­band? Also, you men­tion that he cheated, but don’t list any exam­ples of his cheat­ing. Did he? Because going to a strip club is NOT cheat­ing. He must not have been doing any­thing TOO dirty if you sat there and asked the strip­per do the same things to you that she’s done to him. The penalty you meted out seems a bit steep for a dude just going to a strip club. Seems pretty reac­tionary. Very over­board. I’d bounce you out on your ear and then sue you for the $20K

    • Angel Bal­lard

      in part one it men­tions her talk­ing to her son and how he acci­den­tally picked up the wrong phone and read inap­pro­pri­ate texts between his dad and some woman.

    • Just­my­opin­ion

      Con­sid­er­ing that the lip gloss and bot­tle cap was found in his car, I doubt he was just giv­ing her a ride home, the only thing the story is lack­ing is that she left him, if the card was his respon­si­bilty for him to pay and weighed noth­ing on her pocket book, and she left him in the dust, I for one think that this was a GREAT way to get back at him!!! Also, as soon as she said “do to me what you did to my hus­band” the strip­per got up and ran away, so we never really did get to find out what she actu­ally did.….

  • Don­ald Smith

    Any­body with a joint account is an idiot. Took me a long time to learn that.

    • Crim­son Fox

      Peo­ple who date peo­ple they have to fear shar­ing an account with are the idiots.

    • Jo. Unrau

      My hus­band & I have joint accounts for 31 yrs. & we’ve never had a prob­lem with it. Have you ever heard the word hon­our ? From what I see There isn’t much of that around these days. That’s what’s wrong with the world now. If you don’t have trust & hon­our in mar­riage you shouldn’t be married.

  • Kay-El

    This is pathetic. Way to teach your son about women. Now you’re as guilty as your husband/ Wouldnt it have been eas­ier to walk away? Do you not real­ize you just screwed your­self over with finances? This is just… wow…


    You got “revenge” by pay­ing his strip­per even MORE money ?! Your not very cre­ative are you…? I couldn’t even fin­ish this story, its idi­otic. You com­pletely lack com­mon sense.


    Maybe your lovers wife will get revenge by giv­ing you more money.…since that’s what you con­cider revenge…

  • diablo135

    I’m assum­ing this is just a fic­tion piece, kind of along the lines of a romance novel. The site received des­per­ately needed hits at least.

  • Anne Brooks

    And now you are dat­ing a mar­ried man… HYPOCRITE!!

  • Hope S

    Finds out hus­band is sleep­ing around.
    Goes on $26000 revenge ram­page in VIP.
    Has an affair with a mar­ried man.
    Goes with mar­ried man to VIP in Vegas.
    Won­ders why mar­ried man is untrusting.

    And the les­son to learn here is: Lie to the per­son you’re cur­rently dat­ing so he doesn’t see it coming…

    Maybe rela­tion­ship advice isn’t your call­ing :/ Food for thought.

  • SJF2

    If she charged $26000 to his card and stu­pidly did it all in one place and all on the same receipt, the hus­band could get her to be respon­si­ble for the whole bill dur­ing the divorce. Also, see­ing as there was no other such “blowout” in their finan­cial his­tory and tak­ing into account the things that were pur­chased, the hus­band would have a very good chance that he could press theft and or fraud charges against her and win. And if her behav­ior in mak­ing this “pur­chase” were to be taken into account when sen­tenc­ing, there could be puni­tive dam­ages accessed as well.

  • SJF2

    Since this site pays peo­ple who sub­mit sto­ries, this post and the other posts from this lady are all BS. If you are going to write a series you have to have some sense of con­ti­nu­ity. If you and your hus­band walk into a strip club together and in the course of your story, you start spend­ing money wildly and your hus­band doesn’t get upset, then later, you go home, where you hus­band has now appeared with absolutely no sup­port­ing back­story, and slam the receipt down in front of him and he is THEN sur­prised and upset for your blowout at the strip club… Well, it’s called con­ti­nu­ity and it’s some­thing that’s learned by every writer, eventully…

  • Michael Racette

    Poorly writ­ten fiction.

  • Rudy Bar­ron

    These peo­ple have the cash to jet­set to Europe for weeks at a time yet she had her hus­band pick her and her friend up from the air­port. It is pos­si­ble but from the sense of enti­tle­ment she seems to dis­play I would think she’d have a limo pick her up. As for the hus­band and her son mix­ing up their cell phones — i highly doubt that. And I got lost after she con­fronted her hus­band about the lip­stick and bot­tle cap. How did she know it was a strip­per? And what her name was? And what shift she worked? And what club? Also Stet­son guy who owns a jet and is fly­ing to Vegas for his birth­day has never been to VIP in a strip club?!

    • Jo. Unrau

      Obvi­ously this is a bunch of made up BS to see how many gullible fools she can con, then laugh her head off.

  • emma

    So this woman spent 26 thou­sand on her husband’s credit card for revenge for his cheat­ing, and is now the other woman her­self? She clearly learned noth­ing, and has no respect for her lover’s marriage.

    If her new boyfriend is freaked out enough to be chang­ing pass­words etc., her response should not be “I shouldn’t have told him these awful things about me” it should be “I shouldn’t have done those awful things in the past to cre­ate dis­trust between me and him”.

    This woman is clearly extremely imma­ture, and the sad­dest part is there was a child dragged through this. The fact that her son had to watch his par­ents go through an explo­sive fight due to infi­delity should be unac­cept­able. And now this “respon­si­ble” par­ent is jet­set­ting around with a mar­ried man. Shame on you.

    Another point I’d like to bring up is how dis­turb­ing her treat­ment of the strip­per is. You don’t know that she had any idea she was deal­ing with a mar­ried man. It is not her fault, it’s the hus­bands. I would be ter­ri­fied if some crazy woman grabbed me and got right up in my face the way this woman did. She had no right to be grab­bing this woman in such a fash­ion. I feel sorry for this poor lady that she was forced to deal with such a men­tally unsta­ble cus­tomer, but I’m hop­ing the pay­check at the end of the night was compensation.

    The best revenge for cheat­ing? Leaving.

  • mrsat

    Sounds just like an excerpt from True Con­fes­sions magazine…I’d say fake.

  • Angel Sierra

    I think cheat­ing for the most part, is ok, if and only if, both par­ties are into that lifestyle. But, if either of the cheat­ing spouses don’t know, then when they THINK the other spouse is cheat­ing, but really have no Real evi­dence that the cheat­ing occurred then, why bother going through all that hoopla. Mak­ing assump­tions with lip­stick. If I was cer­tain the cheat­ing occurred, then I would of taken that money and said it was lost, but really put it in off­shore account, where he couldn’t access it; and, Just go on like noth­ing hap­pened. But we are some­times ruled by our egos that is when we go over­board and burn cars or do wild spend­ing. But we all done it. She done what she had to do, way to go, some­times we need sup­port and less hate from oth­ers, even if we would not done it the same way.