QUESTION: My boyfriend is 26 years older than me and the sex has always been amazing, except for one thing. I know he likes for me to have hair down there, but I think it’s gross, so I usually wax it off. I’d really like for him to shave his man parts too, but he always refuses because he thinks it isn’t “manly.” All I’m asking for is a little grooming—how do I convince him that it’s perfectly normal for guys to do a bit of manscaping these days?
CHELSEA SAYS: Are you going to grow a bush for your sugar daddy if he asks you to, even though you personally don’t like it? If not, then why should he shave for you? You’ve got to give a little to get a little.
Manscaping is a pretty new trend. Your sugar daddy sounds like the more traditional type, in that he’s got a pretty clear idea about what is and isn’t acceptable for men. He’s probably pretty set in his ways, so he’s not going to be very receptive to something that challenges those traditional ideas—the same way that, as a young woman, you’re not going to be open to staying home to cook and clean for him just because you’re a woman.
Let’s go back to giving and getting. Try a compromise. If your sugar daddy wants a bush, leave a landing strip for him instead of going completely bare, but on the condition that he does the same—you each get the best of both worlds.
You can also try good old fashioned bribery and reward your sugar daddy for his good behavior. Tell him that if he agrees to get rid of his bush, you’ll repay the favor by giving the area a little more oral attention. Don’t forget to add that you’ll be able to do a much better “job” without having to work around the hair, so it’ll be an even more pleasurable experience for him. If you give your sugar daddy an added incentive, it’s going to be that much harder for him to resist. You just have to know how to make it worth his while.