How Do I Get My Sugar Daddy to Go Down on Me Without Having to Return the Favor?

QUESTION: Sex with my sugar daddy is incred­i­ble and always sat­is­fy­ing, espe­cially when he goes down on me. The prob­lem is that I really hate going down on him. It’s not personal—as much as I like receiv­ing, I’ve just never been a fan of giv­ing. How can I keep get­ting oral sex from my sugar daddy with­out hav­ing to give it?

CHELSEA SAYS: On the one hand, it might appear self­ish for you to expect to receive with­out hav­ing to do it for him in return. But on the other hand, every­one has dif­fer­ent pref­er­ences when it comes to sex—you’re not always going to like what your sugar daddy likes, and vice versa.

Is he OK with you not going down on him? A lot of guys actu­ally enjoy going down on women because it’s just as hot for them—it turns them on to see you turned on. So, if your sugar daddy doesn’t mind giv­ing oral sex with­out get­ting in return, then you really don’t have much of a prob­lem. Enjoy it!

If your sugar daddy has made it clear that he expects a lit­tle oral action down south, then you’ll have to get a lit­tle more strate­gic in your approach to sex. First, ask your­self what it is about giv­ing oral sex that you hate so much, and is the prob­lem fix­able? If you don’t like the taste, spit, don’t swallow—eating cer­tain foods before­hand has also been shown to affect how he tastes. If you don’t like the hair he has down there, ask him to shave. If none of this makes a dif­fer­ence and it still repulses you, then your sugar daddy needs to under­stand and accept that. No mat­ter how amaz­ing your sugar daddy is, he should never, ever force you to do some­thing you aren’t com­fort­able doing, espe­cially when it comes to sex.

It also depends on how long you and your sugar daddy have been together. If you’ve only just started dat­ing and hav­ing sex, then there’s a good chance that you could grow to a point where you’re more com­fort­able going down on him. You and your sugar daddy will (hope­fully) evolve as a cou­ple on all lev­els, includ­ing emo­tion­ally and physically—that means the sex will only get bet­ter. Trust me; even giv­ing oral sex can be quite plea­sur­able when it’s with the right man.

There are other ways you can com­pro­mise, like sav­ing it for spe­cial occa­sions (talk about a happy birth­day), or com­pen­sat­ing with a lit­tle extra hand action. But I can’t stress this point enough: if you’re not okay with going down on your sugar daddy, no mat­ter how com­fort­able or in love you are with him, then he needs to accept that. And if it’s a deal breaker for him, then let him go. You don’t want to be with a man who will pres­sure you into doing things you don’t want to do. You’re sup­posed to be in a mature rela­tion­ship, not a high school girls’ locker room. Have enough self-respect to real­ize when it’s time to walk away.

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    Don’t expect him to go down on you and don’t com­plain if he doesn’t.