QUESTION: My boyfriend sends me naughty messages all the time (texts and pictures). I usually just send back a happy face because I don’t know how else to respond. I know he probably expects something naughty back, but I’ve just never known how to respond. Help!
CHELSEA SAYS: Assuming you and your boyfriend are already sleeping together, a little mobile loving is perfectly acceptable. For your messages, keep it simple and have fun with it. You don’t need to sound like a hardcore porn star to show your boyfriend that you’re thinking about him in that way. Talk about how you really feel and build the anticipation for your next romp in the sack—tell him what you’re looking forward to the next time you’re together, what you’d like to do to him, and how good he makes you feel when you do it. Compliment him; make him feel like he’s the man—that’s pretty much what he’s looking for, anyways. Talk about how much you love his body, maybe mention certain parts of his body (if you catch my drift), and tell him that the thought of seeing him again makes you writhe with anticipation.
If you want to send your boyfriend a naughty picture, but aren’t comfortable showing your face, show him only certain parts, like a picture of your puckered lips, a hint of the lacy bra you have on, or the sexy red stilettos you’re rocking. A lot of phones have the option to send voice clips, too. Surprise him by sending him one randomly in the middle of the day—it’ll really get him going. You just have to decide what you’re comfortable doing.
On that note, if you’re uncomfortable with the whole idea, then you need to tell your boyfriend, and he should respect that. Also, make sure you trust him enough to know that he won’t go spreading your business to all of his buddies. If he’s a mature man, you shouldn’t have to worry as much about being discreet, but still, always trust your gut instincts.