How Many Dates Should You Go on with an Older Man Before You Have Sex? (ANSWER!)

Before You Have SexIt’s a dat­ing ques­tion that has plagued peo­ple for years, and age gap dat­ing is no simpler—how many dates do you go on before hav­ing sex? Of course, every cou­ple is dif­fer­ent, but for once, we might actu­ally be able to put on a num­ber on it.

Accord­ing to a sur­vey of more than 11,000 peo­ple around the world, that golden num­ber is 3.53 dates, or halfway through your fourth date. This was the aver­age num­ber cal­cu­lated from all of the responses. In other words, on aver­age, peo­ple think it’s appro­pri­ate to get down and dirty with a new age gap dat­ing part­ner, or at least expect sex, after the third date. Only 10% of the respon­dents think that sex after a first date is a rea­son­able request. So if you’re think­ing of an age gap hookup right away, you may want to think again.

The study also revealed a few other inter­est­ing find­ings. For instance, you may want to try an age gap dat­ing site if you haven’t already, as 60% of the respon­dents got the high­est num­ber of dates through online dating—sometimes it’s nice to have options. How­ever, if you’re really look­ing to forge a mean­ing­ful con­nec­tion in age gap dat­ing, try turn­ing to your friends—62% of respon­dents said that their most enjoy­able dates are the ones whom they met through friends.

Also, while an age gap hookup on a first date might be off the table for most peo­ple, more than half (53%) of dates end with a kiss, 40% result in a sec­ond date, and almost a third (28%) end in disappointment.

So, how do your own age gap dat­ing adven­tures par up to these world­wide dat­ing stats?


Bourn, C., “The world of dat­ing in 2015,” Time Out web site, Feb­ru­ary 4, 2015;

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About Isabella

I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”