How My Marriage Changed When My Family Moved In with My Much Older Husband’s Parents: Part 2

Brian was a threat to my mar­riage dur­ing this rough patch. It took me some time to real­ize this, but I even­tu­ally rec­og­nized this and asked for some space. He did not respect my request, but instead pushed harder to end my marriage.

Brian and I con­tin­ued to talk—which, I’ll admit, was a bit of a stu­pid mistake—but I refused to talk about any­thing with him that I would have to hide from Kee­gan, there­fore deflat­ing his hot air bal­loon. But also because it just didn’t feel right; I wouldn’t have wanted Kee­gan to con­fide in some other woman behind my back.

Although Kee­gan had expressed a seri­ous inter­est in being swingers, we really couldn’t even enjoy any­thing per say, mostly because I wasn’t healthy enough yet. Plus, Kee­gan didn’t feel com­fort­able try­ing to explain why we were liv­ing with his par­ents if the ques­tion was asked, despite the fact that we chose this liv­ing sit­u­a­tion in order to build our beau­ti­ful 4,000 square-foot home that we live in today.

When we ini­tially moved into our new home, both of our daugh­ters had an incred­i­bly hard time adjust­ing to life away from their grand­par­ents. It wasn’t sur­pris­ing though, because the only home they ever really knew was their grand­par­ents’ and those were very for­ma­tive years for them. Even­tu­ally, they came to enjoy and even pre­ferred liv­ing in our own home, away from the grand­par­ents. I’ll never for­get the day my older daugh­ter told me she was happy to be away from grandma. I was a mom who had always been throt­tled by a med­dling mother-in-law, so it made me feel great to know that my kid pre­ferred me, despite my med­ical issues, over that old hag.

We moved into our newly-built cus­tom home the first week of Decem­ber; we lit­er­ally dec­o­rated for Christ­mas as we moved in. Meet­ing our new neigh­bors made me a bit leery about what they might think of us, con­sid­er­ing our age dif­fer­ence, but we vis­ited the con­struc­tion site each day and got to know some of them really well. The girls have play­mates and we now have peo­ple watch­ing out for us should any unsa­vory com­pany be in the area caus­ing trouble.

Today, Kee­gan and I have finally entered the swing­ing lifestyle and we couldn’t be hap­pier. Our goal at this time is to find a com­pat­i­ble cou­ple who is com­fort­able with our dif­fer­ences to date on a reg­u­lar basis, form­ing a true bond as friends and as a quad of lovers. We’ve gone out with a few cou­ples, but have yet to find one that we really click with.

To say that we’ve “arrived” would be an under­state­ment. We both con­tinue to work very hard in our careers and our mar­riage. I’m cur­rently in school full-time. Kee­gan has been pro­moted up to some very respectable posi­tions and is doing won­der­fully. Our chil­dren are happy, healthy, intel­li­gent, and well-behaved, most of the time at least. Kee­gan and I are still madly in love.

I recently asked Kee­gan recently if he ever imag­ined his life to be what it is today, with me. He smiled brightly and answered, “It’s bet­ter than I ever could have imag­ined it would be.” I can hon­estly say that I’ve never been happier!

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About Vivian

I am 26 and my husband 45. At first, our friendship existed mostly online. I was actually helping my now husband with his dating profile when it dawned on me that he was exactly what I was looking for in a perfect life partner. So, I asked him out and we have been together ever since. We now have two daughters together and everyone that knows us will tell you that they simply can’t imagine us apart, and neither can we. I’m no stranger to May-December relationships—my father was 71 and my mother was 33 when I was born. I have never dated a guy my own age. Anything less than 10 years older than me just seems wrong, and frankly, it doesn’t even turn me on in the slightest bit to think about it. It’s actually a turn-off. After going through relationships with a few rich older men, I finally settled down with my husband. I’m sure there were people waging bets on how quickly our marriage would fall apart, but we’re determined to prove them all wrong.