QUESTION: I’m intrigued by the idea of having a sugar daddy. How do I go about finding one?
CHELSEA SAYS: Well, you’ve certainly come to the right place with this question. Since one of the biggest driving factors behind having a sugar daddy is money, the best place to meet one is going to be in settings that attract older, affluent men, like golf clubs, art galleries, and high-end auctions—that sort of thing. There’s actually a great six-part feature on this site with tips on where to go and what to do catch a sugar daddy’s attention. You can click here to read it—it’s definitely worth checking out if you’re interested in the sugar daddy lifestyle.
You can also try going online to find a sugar daddy. There are a couple of legitimate sugar daddy dating sites out there that help put you in touch with older men who might fit the bill of what you’re looking for. However, if you do decide to try online dating, whether it’s to find a sugar daddy or a more traditional relationship, there are a few things to keep in mind, sort of like unspoken rules, that will help make it a successful quest. Make sure your profile picture is recent (within the last month), keep the descriptions in your profile short and to the point, and be clear about what you’re looking for.
The good thing about using a sugar daddy dating web site is that the overarching terms of the relationship are understood by both parties—you’re both on the site looking for the same type of arrangement, so there’s less chance of a misunderstanding. When you approach a rich older man in person, he may not be interested in having a sugar baby. On the other hand, nothing beats human contact. When chatting with a potential sugar daddy online, you really can’t know for sure that he really is who he says he is until you physically meet him.
TRENT SAYS: Aside from the obvious sugar daddy/sugar baby dating web sites, there are plenty of more organic ways to bump into a potential sugar daddy.
For starters, to find a sugar daddy, sugar babies need to follow the money trail. And by that I mean you have to start hanging out where you think a sugar daddy hangs out. That probably wouldn’t be Chuck E. Cheese’s. And you need to figure out how old you want your sugar daddy to be. For example, the modern day sugar daddy isn’t a gray-haired 55-year-old; he’s a 39-year-old that earns around $273,000 a year.
If you like going out for drinks, dress up and hit a higher-end bar. While the obvious night to look good is a Friday or Saturday night, remember that a lot of the older sugar daddies are attached and many spend the weekends with their families. Interestingly, my friend who is a stockbroker tells me that Thursday night is when he gets together with his friends after work to go out for drinks.
Another spot where you might bump into a potential sugar daddy is at an airport bar. Not all sugar daddies like being holed up in the airlines’ executive lounges. And with sports playing at every hour, most decent bars will have a few potential sugar daddies watching TV on almost any given night.
If you want to find an intelligent, sophisticated older man who’s interesting, start visiting auctions—art, antiques, wine, etc. I can’t think of a major city that doesn’t hold auctions year-round. They’re free to attend and great for mingling.
Getting a membership at a museum or art gallery isn’t a bad way to meet a sugar daddy either. Many of these venues host VIP events for members or have fundraisers. The restaurant at a country club, the race track, or equestrienne events are also good options. Younger sugar daddies love to show off. Check to see if there’s a wine tasting or beer tasting event in your area.
For the most part though, if you’re interested in being a sugar baby, go where you think a sugar daddy hangs out, and, as sexist as it sounds, make sure you look good. When it comes right down to it, chances are good that the sugar daddy will find you.