QUESTION: I just found out that I’m eight weeks pregnant with my sugar daddy’s baby. Although it was a “mistake,” as in it was an unplanned pregnancy, I definitely want to keep the baby. But my sugar daddy and I talked about kids when we first started dating and he made it pretty clear that he had no interest having any. He says if he wanted kids, he would have had them by now. Now what am I supposed to do?
CHELSEA SAYS: This may seem like a silly question, but are you 110% sure that it’s his? If so, then you need to tell your sugar daddy. No ifs, ands, or buts. Whether or not he wants kids is irrelevant—he has the right to know.
This is where we can actually learn something from Simon Cowell. Tell him yourself, and don’t let him find out through the grapevine.
Your sugar daddy was honest with you from the beginning about not wanting kids, and you were obviously OK with it because you continued dating him, so you can’t really hold it against him now. Granted, it takes two to make a baby and it’s a mistake that both of you made together, but be an adult about it. Don’t think that you have him just because you got pregnant by him, so don’t pressure him to be involved if he chooses not to be. He may have his reasons, but whatever they are, you’re going to have to accept his decision.
Going back to Mr. Cowell, he wasn’t keen on having kids either, until his lady friend got pregnant. Now, at 53 years old, he says he’s never been happier and that he can’t wait to be a dad for the first time. So, don’t put it past your sugar daddy to have a change of heart about having kids now that it’s a very real possibility for him. He might surprise you and step up to the paternal plate.
Long story short, you should tell him that you’re pregnant and that you’ve decided to keep it, and then let him decide for himself to what extent he would like to be part of it.
And, of course, congratulations!
TRENT SAYS: Regardless of what arrangement you had in the beginning, and what your sugar daddy said he wanted (or didn’t want), this is a pretty big development. You definitely need to tell him! That’s if he hasn’t already figured it out.
No doubt, he will be shocked. After all, he could have found a sugar baby with kids if he really wanted to, but he chose you instead. Maybe your sugar daddy doesn’t like kids, or maybe all of his are all grown up. At this point, it no longer matters.
Your pregnancy and the baby will, with absolute certainty, change the dynamics of the relationship. And it’s going to throw a big monkey wrench into his life, on every level. The same thing goes for your life. For starters, the spontaneity of being able to pick up and do whatever/wherever/whenever you both want to will soon be gone. This is, of course, one of the perks of the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. With a baby, it changes the exciting spontaneity factor.
But he, like you, is an adult, and has to act like one. If your sugar daddy does embrace the idea of you two having a child together, that’s great! If not, then just remember that your relationship started with boundaries and expectations that you both agreed to. Now that it has entered this new phase, you have to make sure that you come to a new arrangement that best suits the needs of both you and your baby.
Truthfully, your sugar daddy may not want to stay in the relationship with you once he finds out that you’re pregnant, regardless of whether it’s his child or not. That’s a risk you have to take. But then again, is there any relationship that’s risk free?