I’m Pregnant with My Sugar Daddy’s Baby—Now What?

QUESTION: I just found out that I’m eight weeks preg­nant with my sugar daddy’s baby. Although it was a “mis­take,” as in it was an unplanned preg­nancy, I def­i­nitely want to keep the baby. But my sugar daddy and I talked about kids when we first started dat­ing and he made it pretty clear that he had no inter­est hav­ing any. He says if he wanted kids, he would have had them by now. Now what am I sup­posed to do?

CHELSEA SAYS: This may seem like a silly ques­tion, but are you 110% sure that it’s his? If so, then you need to tell your sugar daddy. No ifs, ands, or buts. Whether or not he wants kids is irrelevant—he has the right to know.

This is where we can actu­ally learn some­thing from Simon Cow­ell. Tell him your­self, and don’t let him find out through the grapevine.

Your sugar daddy was hon­est with you from the begin­ning about not want­ing kids, and you were obvi­ously OK with it because you con­tin­ued dat­ing him, so you can’t really hold it against him now. Granted, it takes two to make a baby and it’s a mis­take that both of you made together, but be an adult about it. Don’t think that you have him just because you got preg­nant by him, so don’t pres­sure him to be involved if he chooses not to be. He may have his rea­sons, but what­ever they are, you’re going to have to accept his decision.

Going back to Mr. Cow­ell, he wasn’t keen on hav­ing kids either, until his lady friend got preg­nant. Now, at 53 years old, he says he’s never been hap­pier and that he can’t wait to be a dad for the first time. So, don’t put it past your sugar daddy to have a change of heart about hav­ing kids now that it’s a very real pos­si­bil­ity for him. He might sur­prise you and step up to the pater­nal plate.

Long story short, you should tell him that you’re preg­nant and that you’ve decided to keep it, and then let him decide for him­self to what extent he would like to be part of it.

And, of course, congratulations!

TRENT SAYS: Regard­less of what arrange­ment you had in the begin­ning, and what your sugar daddy said he wanted (or didn’t want), this is a pretty big devel­op­ment. You def­i­nitely need to tell him! That’s if he hasn’t already fig­ured it out.

No doubt, he will be shocked. After all, he could have found a sugar baby with kids if he really wanted to, but he chose you instead. Maybe your sugar daddy doesn’t like kids, or maybe all of his are all grown up. At this point, it no longer matters.

Your preg­nancy and the baby will, with absolute cer­tainty, change the dynam­ics of the rela­tion­ship. And it’s going to throw a big mon­key wrench into his life, on every level. The same thing goes for your life. For starters, the spon­tane­ity of being able to pick up and do whatever/wherever/whenever you both want to will soon be gone. This is, of course, one of the perks of the sugar daddy/sugar baby rela­tion­ship. With a baby, it changes the excit­ing spon­tane­ity factor.

But he, like you, is an adult, and has to act like one. If your sugar daddy does embrace the idea of you two hav­ing a child together, that’s great! If not, then just remem­ber that your rela­tion­ship started with bound­aries and expec­ta­tions that you both agreed to. Now that it has entered this new phase, you have to make sure that you come to a new arrange­ment that best suits the needs of both you and your baby.

Truth­fully, your sugar daddy may not want to stay in the rela­tion­ship with you once he finds out that you’re preg­nant, regard­less of whether it’s his child or not. That’s a risk you have to take. But then again, is there any rela­tion­ship that’s risk free?