Let’s be honest. In today’s day and age, waiting till after marriage to have sex is obsolete for a lot of couples. But how long are you supposed to wait to have sex in a new relationship? It’s a question that has always plagued singles, and sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships aren’t any simpler. If it’s a given that sex is part of the relationship, it can be hard for both parties to decipher when it’s the right time to get naughty.
If you go on a date with a sexy older man whom you experience an instant connection with, and you know the feeling is mutual, should you have sex with him? Will he think you’re easy? On the other hand, if you don’t put out, will there be a second date?
Even though casual sex is a lot more common today, young women still feel that they’ll be judged if they have sex on a first date. Cosmopolitan magazine recently surveyed 1,000 readers and nearly 83% of women between the ages of 18 and 35 felt that their man would think less of a woman who is open to sex on day one, and almost 64% of the women admitted that they had wanted to have sex with a date after one meeting, but that they had opted to keep their pants on out of fear that it would give the guy the wrong idea.
Men, on the other hand, aren’t as judgmental as us women make them out to be. Over 67% of male respondents said that they “absolutely don’t” think less of a date if she hops between the sheets after one date.
A lot of women also fear that if sex happens too soon in the relationship, it ruins their chances of sustaining a long-term arrangement—as the saying goes, “Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” If you’re just looking to have fun in your May-December relationship, then it really doesn’t matter if you sleep with your older man after one date or 10. But if you’re more interested in something serious, it’s definitely something to consider. But rest assured because, according to the survey, 44.5% of women and 58.6% of men know couples whose relationship started by having sex after one date.
What do you think: If you’re a woman, would you think badly about a man who wants to have sex on the first date? If you’re a man, would sex on the first date change your impression of the woman?
“Sex on the First Date,” SheKnows web site; http://goo.gl/yCK21, last accessed August 2, 2013.