For younger women who are interested in dating a rich, older man, it isn’t uncommon to go online to find a good match—there are plenty of web sites out there designed to pair beautiful young women with the rich older men who want to spoil them. But have you ever looked at someone’s online dating profile and wondered how much of what you’re reading about them is actually true?
Chances are a lot of them are fibbing, at least about one thing in particular—kids—which is a very possible piece of baggage that comes with dating an older man. A survey conducted by a dating web site that sets rich men up with attractive women found that one in three sugar daddies lie about whether or not they have kids. Of the 2,500 men surveyed, 32% admitted to lying about their kids, with the most common lie (96%) being that they’ve never fathered a child.
The survey didn’t delve into the reasons why these men lie about their kids, but there’s a good chance that it has a lot to do with fear—they’re afraid that if they reveal the truth, they’ll lose out on a potential date.
Although older men (over 30) were less likely to lie about having kids than the younger ones, it’s still something to keep in mind the next time you’re perusing an online dating web site for a sugar daddy. If you’re looking to establish a long-term relationship with an older man, make sure you bring it up early—the last thing you want is to find out months into the relationship that he’s got kids. Also make sure to ask him directly—don’t beat around the bush or sugarcoat it.
If you suspect that he might be lying, look for some of these common cues:
• He skims over details of his life, or gets way too specific (he may be overcompensating).
• When you bring up the topic of kids, he’ll always try to change the subject or will avoid looking you in the eye.
• You’ve caught him lying before—if he’s lied about one thing, there’s a good chance he’s lying about other things too.
• Learn to trust your instincts—your gut feeling is usually right.
What do you think: Would it be a deal breaker if you found out that the sugar daddy you met online is a real-life daddy?
Ramachandran, V., “Survey: 1 in 3 Dating Dads Lie About Having Kids,” Mashable web site; http://goo.gl/MjJ8H, last accessed July 5, 2013.