Michael Douglas, 69, Makes Big Confession About Ignoring His Marriage (and How You Can Avoid Making the Same Mistake)

Michael Douglas Makes Big ConfessionMichael Dou­glas, 69, recently reunited with his younger wife, Cather­ine Zeta-Jones, 44, after the celebrity cou­ple decided to take a break from their mar­riage in August 2013. Although it was unclear at first if they would ever get back together, it’s now clear that the time apart actu­ally helped their May-December relationship.

Michael Dou­glas recently spoke out about what it takes to truly make a mar­riage suc­cess­ful, and in doing so, he ended up rein­forc­ing one of the biggest mer­its of age gap dat­ing and why younger women dat­ing older men can actu­ally work bet­ter than con­ven­tional relationships.

A lot of it has to do with age,” the actor told Peo­ple mag­a­zine. “When you’ve accom­plished a cer­tain amount in your career, you’re not so focused on your ambi­tions. It makes you appreciate—and hope­fully you do that sooner rather than later—the value of your partner.”

More and more women are turn­ing to dat­ing older men because they’re real­iz­ing that it often results in a health­ier, more sta­ble long-term rela­tion­ship. While young men are busy build­ing their empire, focus­ing on their careers, and try­ing to make money, rich older men, like Michael Dou­glas, have already paid their dues. They’ve worked hard to achieve suc­cess and can now enjoy the fruits of their labor.

Dat­ing older men can be more sat­is­fy­ing if you’re look­ing for a long-term rela­tion­ship, because on top of enjoy­ing the secu­rity of finan­cial sta­bil­ity, he’s more likely to invest time and energy into the rela­tion­ship, sim­ply because he can afford to. And like Michael Dou­glas said, “Like a lovely orchid, or any­thing else that’s nur­tured, mar­riage pros­pers and grows, but if it’s ignored, it withers.”

If you’re inter­ested in dat­ing older men, but you’re wor­ried about hav­ing to deal with his kids from a pre­vi­ous rela­tion­ship, Michael Dou­glas has some more good advice: be hon­est. “I’m more and more prone to tell kids just about every­thing,” said the actor, adding, “Kids know. They know every­thing. I would err on the side of pretty much shar­ing every­thing. They can digest it.”

And he’s right. Kids often know a lot more than peo­ple think. That’s why it’s best to be straight­for­ward with them when it comes to age gap dat­ing. Of course, their age should be fac­tored into how much you’re shar­ing with them. But don’t try and hide your May-December rela­tion­ship or play it off like some­thing else, because chances are, his kids will have a pretty good idea about what’s going on.

What do you think: What’s the best advice you’ve ever heard or got­ten about dat­ing older men?

Source:

Leonard, E., “Michael Dou­glas: Mar­riage Takes Nur­tur­ing to ‘Pros­per and Grow,’” Peo­ple web site, June 18, 2014; http://goo.gl/qpTfuX.  

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