Do you have daddy issues? Do you, or did you, have a bad relationship with your father?
A lot of people assume that a younger woman dating an older man is looking for a father figure, or that she has unresolved issues with her father. I can assure you that that is not always the case with a May-December relationship. Most of the younger women I know who are dating older men are with them because they do like a mature, respectful man. But that doesn’t mean that he’s fatherly. It can simply be that he is in a place in his life where he is stable. A lot of younger women don’t know many men around their own age who are as successful as some older men—an older man has spent more time in the workforce, so is more likely to hold a position of seniority. A lot of younger men haven’t acquired as much wealth yet, so the women tend to prefer the older, more financially stable men. Also, I’ve found that older men are more respectful toward woman, due to the way they were raised and the generation difference.
Do you have sex? Is he even able to? Does he need a special pill? Does he have stamina?
I cannot even state how many times my younger friends ask me this when they first find out that I am dating an older man. They assume that anyone over the age of 40 requires little blue pills to help with sex. More often than not, men don’t need Viagra or Cialis. Some men do, and that is OK. But men and women can both have healthy sex lives well into their 90s. My younger friends also have a hard time believing that my older man has no problem with keeping up with me or trying new things—believe me: he can keep up and is always open to experimenting in the bedroom. Sex with an older man can be just as satisfying, if not more satisfying, than with a younger man. He may be older, but he always knows what he’s doing.