There’s no doubt that sexual chemistry is a top priority for a lot of couples in a May-December relationship, but what happens after sex is apparently just as important for successful relationships as what happens during sex.
A new two-part study from the University of Toronto has found that couples who spend more time after sex cuddling and being affectionate with one another tend to feel more satisfied about their sex lives and their relationships. The data was collected from 335 women and men who completed a lengthy online survey, and then another 101 couples who completed a daily survey for 21 days.
In the first part of the sex study, the duration of affection after sex was linked to an increase in sexual and relationship satisfaction. In the second part of the study, the findings revealed a link between both the quality and the length of post-sex affection to both partners’ level of satisfaction. The researchers checked back in with the couples three months later and found that they were still more satisfied with their relationships and their sex lives thanks to post-coital affection.
When it comes to sex in May-December relationships, a lot of couples end up spending too much time focusing on the end result. We’re not saying that’s a bad thing, but in being too orgasm-centric, you and your older man might be missing out on the fun in foreplay and cuddling after doing the deed—these are things that add intimacy to relationships, and they can help to bring you and your older man closer together.
In fact, your body releases the oxytocin hormone when you’re sexually stimulated—that’s one of the reasons why it feels so good—but these feel-good hormones that are released during sex can actually linger longer if you and your older man kiss, spoon, or snuggle after sex, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
So, long story short, if you really want to improve your sex life and develop your May-December relationship, it’s important to pay attention to your older man (and make sure he pays attention to you) before, during, and especially after sex.
What do you think: Does cuddling after sex improve your May-December relationship?
Muise, A., et al., “Post Sex Affectionate Exchanges Promote Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 2014; doi: 10.1007/s10508-014‑0305-3.