QUESTION: With the holidays around the corner, I’m left wondering whether I should give my sugar daddy a Christmas gift. We haven’t been in a relationship for a long time (about two months). Do I get him something? If yes, what? I realize that I could plan a little something special, but not having been together long, everything is still special. Help!
CHELSEA SAYS: This is always a tough question with sugar daddy relationships, especially when they’re new. I personally think you should get him a gift, even if it’s just something small. Even though it’s a sugar daddy relationship, it’s still an intimate relationship. A gift shows him that you see him as more than a money-making machine and it’s just a nice sentiment.
Planning something special is a good idea. Yes, you’re still in the honeymoon phase where everything is new and exciting, but tap into the dynamics of your relationship with him. Is your sugar daddy adventurous in bed? If so, try surprising him with a new role-playing costume or a toy. Is he a foodie? Arrange a home-cooked meal for him, complete with his sugar baby for dessert.
If you’re looking to give your sugar daddy a more traditional Christmas gift, like something he could put under his tree, I think the trick is to find something that’s both sentimental and casual. Since the relationship is still new, you don’t want to give him a gift that’s too personal, like underwear. But you also want it to mean something, so a box of chocolate won’t exactly cut it either.
Think about what your sugar daddy is interested in. Does he talk a lot about sports? Maybe get him tickets to see his favorite team play. Do you know what type of music he likes? You could get him a CD, or better yet, make your own. Does he like to cook? Get him a cookbook and write your own personal, handwritten message inside, or make notes on the recipes you’d like to try making together.
These are small gifts, but they show your sugar daddy that you know him a little better than a neighbor or co-worker would. They show that you listen to him, you take an interest in what he has to say, and you’re invested in your relationship with him.
TRENT SAYS: The famous sugar baby Christmas conundrum—to give or not to give? There is one certainty about being a sugar baby at Christmas: no matter how long you’ve been with your sugar daddy, be it a day or a decade, you deserve to get loot, and lots of it.
As for whether you should get him something, I think it’s a resounding yes! After all, Christmas is a time for giving and receiving. And even sugar daddies like to get the odd gift.
Fortunately, the holiday season lasts for more than just one day, so it’s totally understandable if you won’t be able to find time to see each other as often as you’d like. The important thing is, you eventually will. And you’ll make the most of it, I imagine.
As for what to get him, unfortunately there is no one-size-fits-all sugar daddy Christmas guide. Now, I could ask you if you’ve been taking mental notes over the last few months about his likes and dislikes, interests, hobbies, and all that. Does he like wine or cigars? Is he into music, books, or movies? You can certainly buy him something. Whether you do or not, I recommend you use your personal touch; be creative.
I’m willing to bet what he really wants for Christmas is to spend time with you. With that in mind, you could put on lingerie and give him a card you made filled with coupons he can redeem for any number of things: a night out, a night in, romantic bubble bath, favorite Kama Sutra position(s), stuff like that. Speaking of which, you could also wrap up a different piece of lingerie for each of the 12 days of Christmas, and enjoy those days at your leisure.
You could arrange a Christmas treasure hunt in your hotel room or home, depending on the circumstances. Give him a clue that sends him to his first gift, which will then have additional clues. Maybe he finds a bottle of wine, strawberries, whipped cream, chocolate sauce, candles, and, finally, a piece of lingerie. At the end, he finds you. The joys of Christmas are endless, really.