Study Identifies One Simple Way to Be Happier In Your Age Gap Relationship

One Simple WayThere has been quite a bit of research boast­ing the ben­e­fits of mar­riage, like that it can lead to improved men­tal and phys­i­cal health. And now, thanks to a new study from Canada’s National Bureau of Eco­nomic Research, there’s another big (and very sim­ple) rea­son you might want to con­sider age gap marriage—it makes you happier.

In the first part of the study, researchers looked at the “hon­ey­moon phase”—the idea that the first cou­ple years of mar­riage are always the hap­pi­est. Although it was true that the “hon­ey­moon phase” was in fact the hap­pi­est, the find­ings showed that mar­ried cou­ples still con­sciously enjoyed their mar­riage long after.

Another pos­i­tive out­come of age gap mar­riage, accord­ing to the study, is that it makes it eas­ier to get past the feared midlife cri­sis. It’s nor­mal for peo­ple to expe­ri­ence a slight dip in their level of hap­pi­ness dur­ing this stage in life, but the find­ings revealed that being mar­ried made it eas­ier to cope with things that tend to bring peo­ple down, like work stress and car­ing for aging par­ents. It’s hav­ing that part­ner by your side that makes the dif­fer­ence, which leads to the third part of the study. It showed that the hap­pi­est mar­ried cou­ples were the ones who believed that their sig­nif­i­cant other was also their best friend—the ben­e­fits of mar­riage were actu­ally dou­ble for these couples.

Although this study didn’t focus specif­i­cally on age gap mar­riage, it does show that a com­mit­ted union, whether there’s the age dif­fer­ence in mar­riage or not, comes with plenty of ben­e­fits. And if you’re not the mar­ry­ing type, you might be inter­ested to learn that cou­ples who lived together over the long-term were almost as happy as the cou­ples who legally tied the knot. This just goes to show that it’s not the age dif­fer­ence in mar­riage that matters—it’s hav­ing some­one that you can lean on through thick and thin, no mat­ter what. If that per­son hap­pens to be a man who is 20 years older, then so be it. As long as you’re happy, that’s what counts.

Source:

Adams, R., “New Study Says You Should Marry Your Best Friend,” Huff­in­g­ton Post web site, Jan­u­ary 9, 2015; http://goo.gl/0T6ISI.

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I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”