Study: Men Prefer Much Younger Women in Second Marriages

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Much Younger WomenIt cer­tainly isn’t uncom­mon to see a big age gap in mar­riage these days. More and more peo­ple are real­iz­ing now that it’s very much pos­si­ble to have a gen­uine, com­mit­ted, suc­cess­ful rela­tion­ship with some­one who is older. And because May-December love sto­ries are start­ing to become more accepted and prac­ticed, so is a large age gap in mar­riage. How­ever, it still seems that an age gap mar­riage is more in the cards the sec­ond or third time around.

A study by Pew Research has dis­cov­ered that for Amer­i­can men, there’s more likely to be a larger age gap in marriage—an older man and a younger woman—if it isn’t his first time down the aisle. And not only will his sec­ond wife be younger, but she’ll likely be a lot younger. Accord­ing to data about recently mar­ried cou­ples taken from the 2013 Amer­i­can Com­mu­nity Sur­vey, about one in five remar­ried men tied the knot with a woman who was at least 10 years younger, and an addi­tional 18% had a wife who was six to nine years younger than them. That’s com­pared to only 5% of men who mar­ried a woman 10 years younger in their first mar­riage, and 10% whose first age gap mar­riage was six to nine years.

On the other end of the age gap mar­riage scale, 80% of first-time grooms have a rel­a­tively small age dif­fer­ence in marriage—five years or less. But only 57% of remar­ried men have that same age gap range.

A sim­i­lar age gap mar­riage trend was seen among remar­ried women as well, although the increase wasn’t quite as sig­nif­i­cant. Seven per­cent of first-time brides mar­ried a man who was 10 years older or more in their first mar­riage, but almost twice as many (13%) remar­ried a man who was at least 10 years older.

If you’re a woman look­ing for a match with hus­band poten­tial, don’t dis­count an older man just because his first mar­riage didn’t quite work out.  A divorce in his past doesn’t mean that there’s some­thing wrong with him. Many May-December love sto­ries can hap­pen later in life, after other rela­tion­ships have come and gone. And if this research is any indi­ca­tion, it could work in your favor—your older man might just be more open to an age gap mar­riage if he’s wed­ded before.


Liv­ingston, G., “Tying the knot again? Chances are, there’s a big­ger age gap than the first time around,” Pew Research Cen­ter web site, Decem­ber 4, 2014; 

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I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”