One of the golden rules of sugar daddy dating is to do unto your sugar daddy as you would have him do unto you. But that being said, there are some differences to be mindful of. To give you the best sugar baby dating tips, we turned to our in-house sugar daddy expert, Trent, to share his advice on how to get the most out of your sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship.
Standards: Have standards, not rules when sugar daddy dating. It’s always best to walk into your role as a sugar baby with your standards in check. In fact, your standards are like an extension of who you are as a person; they’re part of your worldview. Your sugar daddy picked you because he likes you, and he wants to know that he’s in a relationship with the sugar baby he first met. So be that sugar baby; don’t punk him with rules on your second date. There are a lot of women out there who would love to find a sugar daddy, but turning into an authoritarian after the fact is probably one of the quickest ways to lose his interest.
Boundaries: A lot of sugar daddies are walking stereotypes; they’re egomaniacs and narcissists. They want what they want on any given day simply because of who they think they are. Toss money into the mix and some men will think they own you, because you’re their sugar baby. In sugar daddy dating, it’s important to be as up front as possible about what you want and what you are and are not willing to do. And don’t settle for anything less. A sugar baby/sugar daddy relationship still has to follow the human code of respect. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries, don’t waste your time. In the same regard though, you have to respect his boundaries, and he will have them. Money controls more than just the bedroom.
Money: This always seems to end up being the elephant in the room with sugar daddy dating, but it doesn’t have to be. It should have been openly discussed and agreed upon at the very beginning. You have to leave it at that and jump into the relationship. If you’ve been compensated already, he won’t want to hear that you’re a little short. He already knows he’s a bank machine on some level and will want to feel like he’s worth more than that, which he is. As your relationship progresses, broach the subject again. After all, inflation is everywhere.
Princess Ego: Most sugar babies are, by definition, young. Sugar daddies might want to date a young woman, but he won’t want to deal with the personality traits that sometimes come along with that age difference. In other words, you can’t act like an entitled, selfish princess that’s doing him a favour by giving him the time of day. You might not care to learn more about him, but you’re going to need to. Ask questions, find out about his likes and dislikes, take an interest in his interests, and just be there for him. Hopefully he’s not self-absorbed and wants to learn all about you, too but if he doesn’t care to know about everything that’s going on in his sugar baby’s life, you kind of just have to deal with it. After all, you agreed to it.
Relationship: You and your sugar daddy are in a relationship. A relationship! It may have unorthodox boundaries, but it’s still a relationship. If all he wanted was someone to hold hands with, there are a lot of cheaper ways to go about it. If you’ve picked the right sugar daddy, you can be who you really are and he can be just as genuine with you. We all want to feel respected, wanted, and cared for, your sugar daddy included. If, on the other hand, you’re a sugar baby who doesn’t care about your sugar daddy, and you just bear your dates for the sake of being compensated, it’s only a matter of time before he’ll tune in and move on to greener pastures. Treat him with respect and he’ll do the same with you.
Appreciation: You’re a sugar baby. You have to give something before you receive. That’s sort of just the way it works. Just make sure you’re both in agreement about what you’re willing to give and what he wants to receive. Remember though, he chose you to spoil and pamper, so be grateful for everything he does for you. If there are nights where he falls short, that’s OK, because even if he doesn’t admit it, he was probably really looking forward to snuggling afterwards anyway. And if he gives you an unexpected gift from Gucci, Cartier, or Manolo Blahnik, unexpectedly reward him to show that you appreciated his thoughtfulness.