Sugar Baby Dating Tips from a Real-Life Sugar Daddy


One of the golden rules of sugar daddy dat­ing is to do unto your sugar daddy as you would have him do unto you. But that being said, there are some dif­fer­ences to be mind­ful of. To give you the best sugar baby dat­ing tips, we turned to our in-house sugar daddy expert, Trent, to share his advice on how to get the most out of your sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship.

Stan­dards: Have stan­dards, not rules when sugar daddy dat­ing. It’s always best to walk into your role as a sugar baby with your stan­dards in check. In fact, your stan­dards are like an exten­sion of who you are as a per­son; they’re part of your world­view. Your sugar daddy picked you because he likes you, and he wants to know that he’s in a rela­tion­ship with the sugar baby he first met. So be that sugar baby; don’t punk him with rules on your sec­ond date. There are a lot of women out there who would love to find a sugar daddy, but turn­ing into an author­i­tar­ian after the fact is prob­a­bly one of the quick­est ways to lose his interest.

Bound­aries: A lot of sugar dad­dies are walk­ing stereo­types; they’re ego­ma­ni­acs and nar­cis­sists. They want what they want on any given day sim­ply because of who they think they are. Toss money into the mix and some men will think they own you, because you’re their sugar baby. In sugar daddy dat­ing, it’s impor­tant to be as up front as pos­si­ble about what you want and what you are and are not will­ing to do. And don’t set­tle for any­thing less. A sugar baby/sugar daddy rela­tion­ship still has to fol­low the human code of respect. If he doesn’t respect your bound­aries, don’t waste your time. In the same regard though, you have to respect his bound­aries, and he will have them. Money con­trols more than just the bedroom.

Money: This always seems to end up being the ele­phant in the room with sugar daddy dat­ing, but it doesn’t have to be. It should have been openly dis­cussed and agreed upon at the very begin­ning. You have to leave it at that and jump into the rela­tion­ship. If you’ve been com­pen­sated already, he won’t want to hear that you’re a lit­tle short. He already knows he’s a bank machine on some level and will want to feel like he’s worth more than that, which he is. As your rela­tion­ship pro­gresses, broach the sub­ject again. After all, infla­tion is everywhere.

Princess Ego: Most sugar babies are, by def­i­n­i­tion, young. Sugar dad­dies might want to date a young woman, but he won’t want to deal with the per­son­al­ity traits that some­times come along with that age dif­fer­ence. In other words, you can’t act like an enti­tled, self­ish princess that’s doing him a favour by giv­ing him the time of day. You might not care to learn more about him, but you’re going to need to. Ask ques­tions, find out about his likes and dis­likes, take an inter­est in his inter­ests, and just be there for him. Hope­fully he’s not self-absorbed and wants to learn all about you, too but if he doesn’t care to know about every­thing that’s going on in his sugar baby’s life, you kind of just have to deal with it. After all, you agreed to it.

Rela­tion­ship: You and your sugar daddy are in a rela­tion­ship. A rela­tion­ship! It may have unortho­dox bound­aries, but it’s still a rela­tion­ship. If all he wanted was some­one to hold hands with, there are a lot of cheaper ways to go about it. If you’ve picked the right sugar daddy, you can be who you really are and he can be just as gen­uine with you.  We all want to feel respected, wanted, and cared for, your sugar daddy included. If, on the other hand, you’re a sugar baby who doesn’t care about your sugar daddy, and you just bear your dates for the sake of being com­pen­sated, it’s only a mat­ter of time before he’ll tune in and move on to greener pas­tures. Treat him with respect and he’ll do the same with you.

Appre­ci­a­tion: You’re a sugar baby. You have to give some­thing before you receive. That’s sort of just the way it works. Just make sure you’re both in agree­ment about what you’re will­ing to give and what he wants to receive. Remem­ber though, he chose you to spoil and pam­per, so be grate­ful for every­thing he does for you. If there are nights where he falls short, that’s OK, because even if he doesn’t admit it, he was prob­a­bly really look­ing for­ward to snug­gling after­wards any­way. And if he gives you an unex­pected gift from Gucci, Cartier, or Manolo Blah­nik, unex­pect­edly reward him to show that you appre­ci­ated his thoughtfulness.