The Surprising Truth About What Your Partner Is Doing Behind Your Back

What Your Partner Is Doing Behind Your BackA pop­u­lar sugar daddy match­mak­ing web site polled about 22,000 of its reg­is­tered Amer­i­can mem­bers and found that more than half of them (55%) have spied on a part­ner in at least one rela­tion­ship. The most com­mon snoop­ing meth­ods were going through their partner’s e-mails, text mes­sages, and social net­work­ing pages. Eigh­teen per­cent admit­ted to eaves­drop­ping on phone calls or tap­ping phone lines, and 16% said they’ve looked through their partner’s credit card state­ments. Not sur­pris­ingly, nearly three-quarters of the self-proclaimed snoop­ers were women.

While the num­bers are intrigu­ing, the sur­vey doesn’t really touch on why Amer­i­cans are spy­ing on their sig­nif­i­cant oth­ers. The obvi­ous assump­tion would be to catch them hav­ing an affair. But there’s also a chance that it could have noth­ing to do with cheating—it might just be out of curios­ity. For younger women who are in a casual May-December rela­tion­ship, they could just be intrigued by the parts of their older man’s life that he doesn’t include them in.

When women get involved with men, they tend to want to know every­thing about him, just to make sure they’re not get­ting in over their heads. Snoop­ing is a good way to get the answers he wouldn’t oth­er­wise tell you him­self. We’re not say­ing you should snag your sugar daddy’s cell phone the first chance you get, but an affair isn’t the only thing you can dis­cover about your sugar daddy with a lit­tle digging.

Let’s look at it from the other side. If you’re hav­ing an affair with a sugar daddy, or you’re an older man with a secret sugar baby, you might want to be a lit­tle more care­ful with how you carry on with your busi­ness. Take into account all of the ways you might get caught should your part­ner snoop, like the call his­tory on your cell phone, monthly credit card state­ments, eas­ily acces­si­ble e-mail accounts, and being spot­ted in public.

The deci­sion is yours at the end of the day, but we will say one thing: If you’re will­ing to take the risk of hav­ing an affair with a sugar daddy or sugar baby, then you should also be ready to han­dle get­ting caught.

What do you think: Have you ever spied or snooped on your part­ner? Would you if you sus­pected that they were hav­ing an affair?

Tay­lor, V., “More than half of Amer­i­cans admit they have spied on their sig­nif­i­cant other: sur­vey,” New York Daily News web site, July 18, 2013;