The Truth About What Older Men Are Really Looking For in a Partner

Peo­ple often say it’s hard to fig­ure out what women want, but a lot of women will argue that men aren’t always as easy to read as they think they are. If you’re try­ing to deci­pher what older men want in a rela­tion­ship, it’s a lit­tle eas­ier when you know what they don’t want.

A recent sur­vey polled over 2,000 sin­gles between the ages of 50 and 65 to find out about their dat­ing desires. It turns out that the three biggest dat­ing deal break­ers for older sin­gles (in order) are poor health, finan­cial sta­bil­ity, and phys­i­cal attrac­tive­ness. This says a lot about why so many older men are intrigued by the idea of hav­ing a young sugar baby—they’re young, beau­ti­ful, and healthy. The finan­cial sta­bil­ity part makes sense too because a lot of older men don’t nec­es­sar­ily want their sugar baby to be 100% depen­dent on them—he wants to pam­per and spoil you, as opposed to cov­er­ing every sin­gle lit­tle expense for you.

The sur­vey also found that slightly more than half of the older men sur­veyed admit­ted that they have no inter­est in mar­riage. They’re more focused on main­tain­ing a healthy rela­tion­ship, and if that leads to mar­riage, then fine, but they aren’t nec­es­sar­ily pur­su­ing a rela­tion­ship in the hopes that it will lead to a wed­ding. Again, this sup­ports why men opt for the sugar daddy lifestyle—you can still be in a happy, com­mit­ted rela­tion­ship while still hav­ing the under­stand­ing that it doesn’t have to lead to marriage.

What do you think: Would you be open to dat­ing an older man know­ing that he doesn’t want to get married?

Jayson, S., “The results are in!’s Dat­ing Over 50 Sur­vey,” USA Week­end web site, Sep­tem­ber 21, 2013;