The Ultimate Sugar Baby Rulebook


So you’ve decided to try out the sugar baby lifestyle…now what? If all of your past rela­tion­ships have been more of the tra­di­tional nature, it might seem a lit­tle over­whelm­ing to step into the world of sugar dating.

What are the biggest dos and don’ts for sugar babies? What should (and shouldn’t) an aspir­ing sugar baby do on a first date? What’s the best way to approach a poten­tial sugar daddy? How does dis­creet sugar baby dat­ing work? Although every sugar rela­tion­ship will be dif­fer­ent, there are some gen­eral rules to keep in mind in order to really suc­ceed at sugar baby dating.

Sugar Baby Rule #1: Don’t lis­ten to the critics

Con­trary to pop­u­lar belief, not all sugar dad­dies want a sugar baby just for sex: he might be look­ing for arm candy for events, some­one fun to just spend time with, or even for some­one with seri­ous wife poten­tial. Like we said, not all sugar rela­tion­ships are going to be the same and not all sugar babies are alike. That’s why one of the golden rules for sugar baby dat­ing is to find some­one who wants the same things you do. If you’re in it for short-term gain but he’s in it for the long haul, that’s def­i­nitely going to cause some prob­lems down the line.

Sugar Baby Rule #2: Talk about your expectations

It’s impor­tant for a sugar baby and sugar daddy to com­mu­ni­cate and be clear about what they each expect to get out of the rela­tion­ship. Are you look­ing for a short-term fling or a com­mit­ted rela­tion­ship with long-term poten­tial? Is monogamy impor­tant, or are you OK with him hav­ing other sugar babies? These are just a few of the things an aspir­ing sugar baby should dis­cuss before get­ting involved with a part­ner. If you have ques­tions, don’t be afraid to ask him. It should be an open dis­cus­sion, not one party pre­sent­ing a list of demands to the other. And it should go both ways, so don’t be sur­prised if he has his own set of expec­ta­tions. Going back to the pre­vi­ous point, this dis­cus­sion is the best way to find out if you and your poten­tial sugar daddy are compatible.

Sugar Baby Rule #3: Know and respect your com­fort level

If you’re not com­fort­able doing some­thing, then don’t do it under any cir­cum­stances. A sugar baby should never com­pro­mise her val­ues, beliefs, morals, or ideals just to make a man happy, and if he per­sis­tently tries to pres­sure you into doing some­thing you’re not com­fort­able with, it’s time to cut him loose. A good exam­ple is sex; a lot of sugar babies choose to never sleep with their sugar daddy, and that’s made clear from the onset. As a sugar baby, you should always retain some sense of con­trol in the rela­tion­ship, no mat­ter how much older or richer he is. If you don’t want to do some­thing, stick to your guns and don’t let any­one else dic­tate what you will and won’t do as a sugar baby.

Sugar Baby Rule #4: Be appreciative

When you’re a sugar baby, it’s kind of assumed that you’ll be pam­pered and spoiled—sugar dad­dies under­stand that that’s part of the deal. But that doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. It’s still impor­tant to be grate­ful as a sugar baby and appre­ci­ate what he gives and does for you. This doesn’t nec­es­sar­ily mean you have to earn the gifts and extra spend­ing money, but refrain from com­ing across as greedy or enti­tled; not only is it an unat­trac­tive qual­ity in a sugar baby—or any woman, for that matter—but it’s demean­ing and insult­ing to him.

Sugar Baby Rule #5: Keep your emo­tions in check

When a sugar baby spends a lot of time with one sugar daddy, their feel­ings can some­times change. We’ve seen so many sit­u­a­tions where a sugar baby is casu­ally dat­ing a sugar daddy, only to wind up get­ting hurt, because she’s fallen in love with an older man who doesn’t want or isn’t yet ready for a seri­ous, long-term com­mit­ment. If you and your sugar daddy have agreed on your expec­ta­tions at the start of your rela­tion­ship, but you real­ize that your feel­ings have since changed, it’s impor­tant to com­mu­ni­cate this to your sugar daddy. And be bru­tally hon­est about it; you never know, he might feel the same way about you. And if he doesn’t, at least you’ll know right away and you can both move on to find­ing some­one who’s on the same page.

Sugar Baby Rule #6: Think smart when plan­ning the first date

Agree­ing to meet a poten­tial new sugar daddy for the first time is excit­ing, but don’t let that cloud your judg­ment. For your first date, meet in a pub­lic place and make sure that some­one you trust knows all of the details, includ­ing who you’re meet­ing, the loca­tion, the meet­ing time, and what time you expect to be home. Meet at your agreed-upon loca­tion instead of let­ting him pick you up, and make your own arrange­ments for get­ting home after the date ends. Click here for more sugar baby tips about online dat­ing safety.

Sugar Baby Rule #7: Respect dis­creet sugar baby dating

Some peo­ple don’t want their pri­vate rela­tion­ships out in the open, and there’s noth­ing wrong with that. As such, a lot of suc­cess­ful older men pre­fer dis­creet sugar baby dat­ing so that it doesn’t inter­fere with their pro­fes­sional life. So if your sugar daddy com­mu­ni­cates to you that it’s impor­tant to him to be dat­ing sugar babies dis­creetly, you should respect his wishes. Don’t flaunt your sugar baby sta­tus and never show up at his work­place unan­nounced. If you’re not com­fort­able with the idea of keep­ing your rela­tion­ship pri­vate, then you should stick to dat­ing sugar dad­dies who aren’t wor­ried about dat­ing sugar babies secretly.

Sugar Baby Rule #8: Don’t rush into anything

You might feel pres­sured to rush into hav­ing sex or com­mit­ting to a full-fledged rela­tion­ship with your sugar daddy because he pam­pers and spoils you with money and expen­sive gifts. But no mat­ter how well a sugar baby is treated, she should never rush into sleep­ing with a man until she’s 100% sure that she’s ready. Take your time to get to know each other before tak­ing the rela­tion­ship to the next step. It might take longer for one sugar baby to get to that level than another one, but only move as quickly as you feel com­fort­able doing—besides, antic­i­pa­tion only makes the deed hot­ter. Remem­ber that as a sugar baby, you should never under­value your­self and what you have to offer, and never treat the rela­tion­ship like a sim­ple trans­ac­tion. The same rule applies to your sugar daddy, so don’t pres­sure him into doing any­thing he isn’t ready for, whether it’s hav­ing sex or putting a ring on your finger.

  • trash­news­re­porter

    Not all dad­dies are rich. Some of us have $500/mes for a girl and we get them. And they are hot! They are intelligent/smart, active, mature and kind. And they are hot…did I say that? Mine is 22 yrs old and a good stu­dent at the local U. And I don’t have to buy her drugs to date me.

    My SB asked me to help her. She needed money for school. She was the friend of a friend. I never expected her to ask or even think about it. When she asked I told her I would think about it. And I did…seriously for 3 mins.

    I am 67 and this isn’t my first baby. And for those on the street, you know that some of us guys are pretty damn hot our­selves. We don’t have to be an actor or rock star and have the looks of an angel like Tom Cruise (was).

    I’m a good look­ing guy. By vote (943 women) com­pared me to a cou­ple rock stars, actors, politi­cians, pilots and fire­men. My photo was taken down from a pop­u­lar dat­ing web­site until I proved it was mine!

    Man­age­ment at the site said I looked too much like a celebrity or actor or some­thing or some­one besides me. I had to post a pass­port foto and driver’s license to get my photo approved. So, yes I am hot and I am old and I can still last with­out a lit­tle blue pill. But I have them.

    Some guys can even be a lit­tle heavy and look good. A pretty face on a guy 67 that has a few extra pounds stashed under his belt can be just want a girl wants.

    So guys! Don’t fall for the money stuff. The first SD was not rich. Don’t be intim­i­dated by money and hot girls. That every­day chica needs your dona­tion to her edu­ca­tion. And the sex is avail­able. Just don’t push it and you will get more than you ever desired…I know.

    Robert D.

    • Har­lene Garcia

      Lol date mee

      • Har­lene Garcia

        Look­ing for a sugar daddy im attrac­tive i just dont use my per­sonal face­book to post on these things lol
        But seri­ously if inter­ested in find­ing out how i really look like hit my email