So you’ve decided to try out the sugar baby lifestyle…now what? If all of your past relationships have been more of the traditional nature, it might seem a little overwhelming to step into the world of sugar dating.
What are the biggest dos and don’ts for sugar babies? What should (and shouldn’t) an aspiring sugar baby do on a first date? What’s the best way to approach a potential sugar daddy? How does discreet sugar baby dating work? Although every sugar relationship will be different, there are some general rules to keep in mind in order to really succeed at sugar baby dating.
Sugar Baby Rule #1: Don’t listen to the critics
Contrary to popular belief, not all sugar daddies want a sugar baby just for sex: he might be looking for arm candy for events, someone fun to just spend time with, or even for someone with serious wife potential. Like we said, not all sugar relationships are going to be the same and not all sugar babies are alike. That’s why one of the golden rules for sugar baby dating is to find someone who wants the same things you do. If you’re in it for short-term gain but he’s in it for the long haul, that’s definitely going to cause some problems down the line.
Sugar Baby Rule #2: Talk about your expectations
It’s important for a sugar baby and sugar daddy to communicate and be clear about what they each expect to get out of the relationship. Are you looking for a short-term fling or a committed relationship with long-term potential? Is monogamy important, or are you OK with him having other sugar babies? These are just a few of the things an aspiring sugar baby should discuss before getting involved with a partner. If you have questions, don’t be afraid to ask him. It should be an open discussion, not one party presenting a list of demands to the other. And it should go both ways, so don’t be surprised if he has his own set of expectations. Going back to the previous point, this discussion is the best way to find out if you and your potential sugar daddy are compatible.
Sugar Baby Rule #3: Know and respect your comfort level
If you’re not comfortable doing something, then don’t do it under any circumstances. A sugar baby should never compromise her values, beliefs, morals, or ideals just to make a man happy, and if he persistently tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with, it’s time to cut him loose. A good example is sex; a lot of sugar babies choose to never sleep with their sugar daddy, and that’s made clear from the onset. As a sugar baby, you should always retain some sense of control in the relationship, no matter how much older or richer he is. If you don’t want to do something, stick to your guns and don’t let anyone else dictate what you will and won’t do as a sugar baby.
Sugar Baby Rule #4: Be appreciative
When you’re a sugar baby, it’s kind of assumed that you’ll be pampered and spoiled—sugar daddies understand that that’s part of the deal. But that doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. It’s still important to be grateful as a sugar baby and appreciate what he gives and does for you. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to earn the gifts and extra spending money, but refrain from coming across as greedy or entitled; not only is it an unattractive quality in a sugar baby—or any woman, for that matter—but it’s demeaning and insulting to him.
Sugar Baby Rule #5: Keep your emotions in check
When a sugar baby spends a lot of time with one sugar daddy, their feelings can sometimes change. We’ve seen so many situations where a sugar baby is casually dating a sugar daddy, only to wind up getting hurt, because she’s fallen in love with an older man who doesn’t want or isn’t yet ready for a serious, long-term commitment. If you and your sugar daddy have agreed on your expectations at the start of your relationship, but you realize that your feelings have since changed, it’s important to communicate this to your sugar daddy. And be brutally honest about it; you never know, he might feel the same way about you. And if he doesn’t, at least you’ll know right away and you can both move on to finding someone who’s on the same page.
Sugar Baby Rule #6: Think smart when planning the first date
Agreeing to meet a potential new sugar daddy for the first time is exciting, but don’t let that cloud your judgment. For your first date, meet in a public place and make sure that someone you trust knows all of the details, including who you’re meeting, the location, the meeting time, and what time you expect to be home. Meet at your agreed-upon location instead of letting him pick you up, and make your own arrangements for getting home after the date ends. Click here for more sugar baby tips about online dating safety.
Sugar Baby Rule #7: Respect discreet sugar baby dating
Some people don’t want their private relationships out in the open, and there’s nothing wrong with that. As such, a lot of successful older men prefer discreet sugar baby dating so that it doesn’t interfere with their professional life. So if your sugar daddy communicates to you that it’s important to him to be dating sugar babies discreetly, you should respect his wishes. Don’t flaunt your sugar baby status and never show up at his workplace unannounced. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of keeping your relationship private, then you should stick to dating sugar daddies who aren’t worried about dating sugar babies secretly.
Sugar Baby Rule #8: Don’t rush into anything
You might feel pressured to rush into having sex or committing to a full-fledged relationship with your sugar daddy because he pampers and spoils you with money and expensive gifts. But no matter how well a sugar baby is treated, she should never rush into sleeping with a man until she’s 100% sure that she’s ready. Take your time to get to know each other before taking the relationship to the next step. It might take longer for one sugar baby to get to that level than another one, but only move as quickly as you feel comfortable doing—besides, anticipation only makes the deed hotter. Remember that as a sugar baby, you should never undervalue yourself and what you have to offer, and never treat the relationship like a simple transaction. The same rule applies to your sugar daddy, so don’t pressure him into doing anything he isn’t ready for, whether it’s having sex or putting a ring on your finger.