For the most part, Brandon and my May-December relationship consisted of both of us flirting and wondering about each other for six months before either of us made a move. It took all the courage I could muster to be the one to make the first move and it didn’t take long for Brandon to jump on board and ask me out on a date. After a beautiful dinner and a heavy makeout session, Brandon openly expressed that he could see himself marrying me one day.
Not hearing anything but the word “marry,” I got scared and started to reevaluate what exactly I was looking for from Brandon. But when I opened up about my concerns of our May-December relationship going a little too fast, Brandon jumped ship and suggested that we just be friends, which is when I realized that what I really wanted was for Brandon to be my boyfriend.
After going through a whole day without hearing a peep from him, I decided that this wasn’t the kind of guy that I wanted to miss out on. I decided to send a text message to Brandon explaining what exactly I was feeling and that I did not want to just be friends, but that I wanted us to go slow. To my relief, Brandon expressed the same idea and even confessed that he felt bad the entire day because he missed hearing from me. It was then that we both came to the conclusion that we clearly felt the same way about one another and that anything after that was, in Brandon’s words, “God’s will.”
Now that we had our feelings for one another out on the table, Brandon and I continued what we had. It wasn’t until the next week that we realized Valentine’s Day landed exactly 10 days after our first date, which created yet one more obstacle—no one at work knew about our office romance. The stress of dating one of the managers suddenly started to rear its ugly head again and I had to think, how was I going to tell people? Or rather, who needed to know and who didn’t?
Out of respect and professionalism, I immediately told my direct manager, Calvin, about what happened and asked what he thought of it, or more importantly, if he allowed it. To my surprise, Calvin was excited that his longtime co-manager had found someone. Though I was a little young, he knew I was mature for my age and as long as my May-December relationship did not interfere with my work ethic, then he was all for it. The rest of my office was happy to see me happy and even had an inkling about the attraction between Brandon and I.
However, Brandon’s office wasn’t so thrilled, especially Becky, one of Brandon’s employees whom I had suspected had a thing for him. Luckily for the both of us, the company was used to employees dating one another and there was not much they could do. So we were free to do what we wanted as long as home and work were separated. Things were finally starting to work in our favor.