This Is How Older Men Get You Into Bed

Have you ever secretly wished that you could read your older man’s mind? Wouldn’t you love to know what turns them on and what makes them tick? It would def­i­nitely be eas­ier to make the rela­tion­ship work, espe­cially when there’s a large age dif­fer­ence, if you know what they’re thinking.

A pop­u­lar men’s lifestyle web site recently con­ducted a sur­vey to get their male read­ers’ take on women, love, rela­tion­ships, and sex. The find­ings, col­lected from approx­i­mately 10,000 par­tic­i­pants, offer some unique insight for women who want to under­stand their older man a lit­tle better.

When it comes to what appeals most to your older man, the most impor­tant qual­ity in a part­ner seems to be how attrac­tive they are, fol­lowed by how smart the woman is. That might explain why so many older men seek out rela­tion­ships with younger women—they’re pleas­ing to the eye, but can still hold a conversation.

The sur­vey also asked what the biggest deal­breaker is in a rela­tion­ship. A whop­ping 81% said they’d break off the rela­tion­ship if their part­ner was rude. Not sur­pris­ingly, 61% said being unat­trac­tive is a deal­breaker, while one-third said being over­weight or hav­ing a bad sense of style. So, what does this mean for ladies? Well, it clearly pays to play nice, and if your older man tells you that looks don’t mat­ter, there’s a good chance he’s lying to you.

Speak­ing of lying, when asked what the biggest lie they’ve ever told a woman just to have sex with her, almost half said, “That I’m inter­ested in a rela­tion­ship.” So, if your rela­tion­ship with an older man is still in its early stages, don’t be sur­prised if sex changes things.

What do you think: What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to know about your older man?


Lopez, L., “Guys Share Their Biggest Deal­breaker In A Rela­tion­ship, And Other Sex Stats For Dudes,” Busi­ness Insider web site, Feb­ru­ary 14, 2014;

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About Francine K

I first met Alfred when I was 38 and he was 63, on an Internet chat site. I really didn't think this was a datable person, but a wonderful friendship developed. We became chat buddies for a while and connected so well on so many levels, we decided to meet in person. We live 100 miles apart, but that has never gotten in the way of us spending time together. A passionate relationship soon grew, and oh what an amazing lover. I had some reservations about getting too involved: our age difference is 25 years, and we are in different phases in our lives; in fact he has a daughter who is older than I am. I have 2 teenage sons, a career, was building my first home, and he’s retired, owns his home, lives alone, takes a nap during the day, and enjoys a slow-paced lifestyle. I am still ambitious and will soon have the empty nest to go start my own life, as my sons are nearly independent. There is no way I want to sit down and have a retired lifestyle yet. We’ve shared a beautiful, passionate friendship for many years together. We’ve never really figured out how to plan a future together, though.