This Is the New Way Your Man Could Be Cheating On You

Cheating On YouIf you caught your mature hus­band hav­ing sex with another woman, it’s under­stand­able that you might con­sider end­ing your May-December mar­riage. But what if it was only hap­pen­ing online?

With the rapid rise of the dig­i­tal age, the line between faith­ful­ness and cheat­ing is blur­rier than ever before. While it’s true that every May-December mar­riage is dif­fer­ent, it’s gen­er­ally agreed upon between hus­band and wife that extra­mar­i­tal sex is off lim­its. Where things get fuzzy though, is what hap­pens if the cheat­ing hap­pens online, such as engag­ing in dirty talk online, exchang­ing X-rated mes­sages and pic­tures in an adult chat room, vir­tual sex games, or even just watch­ing porn.

A cheater might try to defend his actions by say­ing that because it’s online, it doesn’t count. But accord­ing to a recent sur­vey, online cheat­ing can do just as much dam­age to a May-December mar­riage as phys­i­cal cheat­ing can.

In the sur­vey, which was car­ried out as part of research for the new book Always Turned On: Sex Addic­tion in the Dig­i­tal Age, found that 87% of the respon­dents felt that their partner’s cheat­ing online had a neg­a­tive effect on their mar­riage long-term rela­tion­ship. Some of the most com­mon neg­a­tive effects reported included loss of trust and self-esteem, stress, and a hit to the sex­ual rela­tion­ship. Over a third (35%) of the respon­dents said that their rela­tion­ship ended as a result of their partner’s online cheating.

Let this be a les­son for your May-December marriage—there is very lit­tle dif­fer­ence between an affair that hap­pens online and one that hap­pens in real life, at least accord­ing to your sig­nif­i­cant other. So if you’re think­ing about stray­ing, even in the dig­i­tal world, you might want to think again. As a gen­eral rule of thumb, if you feel the need to lie or keep it a secret, you prob­a­bly shouldn’t be doing it if you’re not will­ing to put your May-December mar­riage on the line.


Weiss, R., “Online Sex Can Shat­ter, Even Doom Rela­tion­ships, Sur­vey Finds,” Huff­in­g­ton Post web site, Jan­u­ary 7, 2015;

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About Isabella

I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”