This Is What Older Men Are Really Looking For in a Sugar Baby

This Is What Older Men Are Really Looking For in a Sugar Baby

What’s the first thing you notice about a man when you’re look­ing for a sugar daddy? If you’ve been in age gap rela­tion­ships with older men before, do you remem­ber what it was about them that attracted you so much? It turns out that a lot of women are attracted to one sim­i­lar qual­ity when nav­i­gat­ing through the dat­ing scene—and it’s quite dif­fer­ent from what men are look­ing for in a poten­tial partner.

A study pub­lished in the Jour­nal of Per­son­al­ity and Social Psy­chol­ogy set out to deter­mine what qual­i­ties men and women value most in some­one they might be inter­ested in dat­ing. The researchers con­ducted sev­eral exper­i­ments using online chat­ting and speed-dating tech­niques. Ladies, take note, because these find­ings can come in handy if you’re look­ing for a sugar daddy and really want to catch his attention.

The results of the study revealed that women are more inclined to select a part­ner that’s per­ceived as hav­ing a high social sta­tus and were more likely to reject men who had a low social stand­ing. Men, on the other hand, were more open to dat­ing a woman who was per­ceived to be phys­i­cally attrac­tive, and would reject a woman who wasn’t as good looking.

Not only does this show that men and women screen poten­tial part­ners dif­fer­ently, but it’s also the per­fect exam­ple of why age gap rela­tion­ships make sense for so many peo­ple. An older sugar daddy wants to be with some­one whom they’re phys­i­cally attracted to, and, for a lot of them, that hap­pens to be a younger woman. That’s not to say that it’s all about looks, but phys­i­cal attrac­tion is undoubt­edly an impor­tant ele­ment of age gap rela­tion­ships, or any inti­mate rela­tion­ship for that mat­ter. And we’re not say­ing that you need to com­pletely change the way you look or dress when look­ing for a sugar daddy, but you should take your phys­i­cal appear­ance into account. A sugar daddy is usu­ally pol­ished, sophis­ti­cated, and mature—you want to com­ple­ment that image, espe­cially if you’ll be hang­ing around his col­leagues and cir­cle of friends.

Mean­while, women want a man who is finan­cially sta­ble and well estab­lished, and more often than not, it’s eas­ier to find those qual­i­ties in an older man. Age gap rela­tion­ships are there­fore able to cater to both men and women’s needs, at least accord­ing to this sci­en­tific study. Need we say more?

What do you think: Would you con­sider dat­ing a sugar daddy with a high social stand­ing, but who wasn’t as attractive?


Cheng, C., “Study Reports Men and Women Look for Dif­fer­ent Aspects in a Part­ner,” Coun­sel & Heal web site, August 26, 2013;