Why Everything They’ve Told You About Marriage Is Wrong

Everything They’ve Told You About Marriage Is WrongThe idea of liv­ing together before mar­riage has always been a hot topic. A lot of sugar babies, even some of the real-life women who share their sto­ries on http://hollywoodsugardaddies.com, have lived with their sugar daddy before mar­riage was ever part of the dis­cus­sion. It’s def­i­nitely a grow­ing trend; in fact, two thirds of peo­ple will live together before walk­ing down the aisle.

There seems to be this con­cep­tion that if you move in together before mar­riage, you’re more likely to get a divorce—there have even been stud­ies show­ing the link between pre­mar­i­tal cohab­i­ta­tion and divorce. But new research is prov­ing otherwise.

A new report pub­lished in the Jour­nal of Mar­riage and Fam­ily explains that there actu­ally is no dif­fer­ence in the divorce rates between cou­ples who live together before mar­riage and those who wait till after mar­riage to move in together.

The soci­ol­o­gist behind the research stud­ied national sur­veys from three sep­a­rate years and gath­ered mar­riage, divorce, and cohab­i­ta­tion data on over 7,000 peo­ple. Upon study­ing the find­ings, they found no real link between mov­ing in before mar­riage and the divorce rate. But they did find another fac­tor that influ­ences the like­li­hood of main­tain­ing a long-term rela­tion­ship. Cohab­i­ta­tion doesn’t lead to divorce; it’s when you move in together that’s really the decid­ing factor.

Accord­ing to their find­ings, mov­ing in after the age of 23 will increase your chances of a suc­cess­ful mar­riage after­wards; one econ­o­mist even believes that every year after 23 that you wait for mar­riage, the less likely you are to get divorced. The idea is that when you move in with some­one when you’re too young, you’re not mature enough and don’t have enough expe­ri­ence to choose an ade­quate, com­pat­i­ble life part­ner. That’s why the longer you wait, the more equipped you’ll be to pick a part­ner that will stick around for the long haul.

So, there you have it—moving in with your sugar daddy before mar­riage doesn’t nec­es­sar­ily mean you’re headed for a divorce, but you still don’t want to rush into any­thing. Before you start pack­ing your bags, make sure you know what you’re get­ting into. Spend the time get­ting to know him and only take the next step when you’re sure that you’re happy in that relationship.

What do you think: Would you want to live with your sig­nif­i­cant other before marriage?

Lus­combe, B., “How Shack­ing Up Before Mar­riage Affects a Relationship’s Suc­cess,” TIME web site, March 12, 2014; http://goo.gl/jVCEYU.