After my divorce, followed by one or two casual relationships, I started dating my much older boss. I tried to hide it from my family for as long as I could. They knew him as my boss, and they knew he was a successful lawyer with some cash to spare. But when my mom and some of my other family members found out I was dating a rich older lawyer, everyone immediately assumed that I was acting like a greedy gold digger who was no better than a prostitute.
My sister especially thought of me as some escort or call girl who was just playing up my divorce to get my boss’ sympathy and money. My family assumed that I was using him to buy things for my kids and to help further my career. It was almost like they had just entered typical sugar daddy specifications into Google, and read tag lines like, “Meet wealthy men seeking to spoil beautiful women,” or “Meet sugar daddies to take you on expensive trips.”
My family didn’t understand that I had known my boss and lover for years, and we had a relationship that was far deeper than a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. I was constantly being asked questions about why would I want to sink so low and date someone who only wanted me for my looks, or someone that I was only getting cash and gifts from.
I had to try and explain to my friends and family that from the beginning, there are many different types of sugar baby relationships, ranging from blatant prostitution and escorting to regular relationships with the perk of total financial stability. I was never in a relationship doing the whole sex-for-cash-in-an-unmarked-envelope deal. From the beginning, Mr. Brown and I had a more traditional relationship, which is slightly harder to find, but in my opinion is the most rewarding. I was looking for someone who, like myself, was out of a relationship, but was looking for companionship. The only difference is that he took care of me financially at a time when I couldn’t handle it myself, because of my recent divorce.
Once I started dating Mr. Brown, my boss and my sugar daddy/boyfriend, I knew that our love was something more than just a business arrangement. I never let my family and friends’ opinions sway my decision to be with him, because I knew that they would eventually see what I saw in our relationship.
My mom finally realized it when we returned from a beach vacation where Mr. Brown had met my kids and spent time with them. It was then that my mother finally realized that this was a serious relationship to me and him, not just some sort of sexual or financial situation. It took a little bit longer for other people in my family to accept that my boss lavishing me with the gifts like a house and cars was because we were a legitimate couple, and he loved me, not just because we were friends with benefits.
There are still a lot of web sites and television shows out there that are giving people the wrong idea about sugar daddy relationships. They make it look like a sugar daddy relationship can never turn into anything serious. Well, here I am, living proof that there are women who meet and fall in love with someone who may initially be a sugar daddy, but who can turn into real life partners. You never know who you will fall in love with, and if it happens to be your rich, older boss, then all the better for you! But if you let other people’s misguided judgments make you question your decisions about being with him, you could be missing out on the relationship of a lifetime.
When trying to tell your family and friends about a new May-December relationship, don’t give up or try and hide it from them if they don’t immediately approve, because that will only end up hurting your relationship with your sugar daddy. You just have to be patient. Remember that this is new for them, and it will likely take some time for them to get used to it. But if your relationship really is genuine, then they’ll eventually come around and see that.