Why I’d Never Sign a Pre-Nup…And You Shouldn’t Either

My “prince” is a very suc­cess­ful busi­ness man in his own right. He has made me become accus­tomed to liv­ing a lifestyle that I was never used to before. He likes me to wear the lat­est trends, and doesn’t like an unkempt appear­ance. He expects me to look nice, dress well, and be sur­rounded by beau­ti­ful things, so of course I need the finan­cial resources to sat­isfy this. Even still, his needs can change in the blink of an eye and I have to keep up with that. It’s impor­tant that I keep myself updated with the lat­est trends, take reg­u­lar vis­its to the spa, get my hair and nails done, and of course make sure that I always look per­fectly attired. He expects it and pro­vides for it so I ful­fill that expectation.

I’m just a nor­mal, mid­dle class girl that has found a prince that takes care of her emo­tion­ally and finan­cially. He is there for me when­ever I need him. If I need some­thing he will buy it and if I ask for some­thing he will always strive to get it for me, either right away or within a short period of time.

At the same time, if my prince calls me at any given time, I do my best to be there for him any­time, day or night. Basi­cally I am every­thing a wife should be—the only dif­fer­ence is that we are not hus­band and wife on paper.

With­out that piece of paper, we’ve also steered clear of the ever-controversial pre-nuptial agree­ment. That doesn’t mean I don’t have an opin­ion on it though.

I’m there for him emo­tion­ally, phys­i­cally and men­tally so why should I not reap the ben­e­fits, too, should we choose to split up? On top of that, I’m risk­ing a lot to be with him; if some­thing hap­pens to our rela­tion­ship, where would I end up?

If I had a pre-nuptial agree­ment, it would lay out the specifics and the lim­its of what I am enti­tled to should we ever choose to break up, but that’s not what I’d be look­ing to sign up for. A pre-nup def­i­nitely wouldn’t be an option for me. We’ve been together for quite some time and I’ve invested a lot, risked a lot, and become accus­tomed to the lifestyle of being pro­vided for. I’ve pro­vided for him in many ways—so I should be enti­tled to at least a lit­tle more than what I’d expect a pre-nup would lay out. Basi­cally, a pre-nup would be too limiting.

Ladies, if you don’t limit the emo­tional invest­ment you make in your man and you don’t limit the effort you put into meet­ing the expec­ta­tions he has, then why should you be lim­ited to how much you’re enti­tled to in the event of a break-up? I know that every rela­tion­ship is dif­fer­ent, so where a pre-nup fits (or doesn’t) is up to the peo­ple in those rela­tion­ships to decide, but, as for me, a pre-nup just wouldn’t be in the cards.

  • Reg­u­lar Guy

    Rub­bish. You’re reap­ing the ben­e­fits of the rela­tion­ship right now. You say you’re risk­ing a lot, but if these things are so impor­tant and pre­cious to you, why are you putting them at risk? Sorry babe, but you can’t have it both ways. And news­flash.… if you’re not mar­ried to the guy, not liv­ing together and not in a com­mon law mar­riage, you’re enti­tled to absolutely zero after it’s over. You’ll have to be con­tent with the expen­sive gifts and mem­o­ries of extrav­a­gant times together. Period.

  • someper­spec­tive­please

    gotta get a pro­posal first, sweetheart.