Would You Join This Controversial Dating Web Site?

One of the most awk­ward parts of a first din­ner date is deci­pher­ing how to han­dle the check at the end of the night. Do you assume that he’ll pick up the tab? Do you offer to pay? You’d think that dat­ing a sugar daddy is dif­fer­ent because, nat­u­rally, he pays for every­thing, right? But a recent EarnTheNecklace.com poll revealed that almost 79% of read­ers felt the woman should pay for the first date. Mean­while, another dat­ing sur­vey found that nearly 85% of men pay for dat­ing expenses like the din­ner check. So, how can you ever really know for sure what to do?

One new dat­ing web site is hop­ing to put an end to the con­fu­sion by arrang­ing dates where it’s clear that your man will be pick­ing up the tab. Although the site isn’t nec­es­sar­ily being mar­keted to sugar dad­dies and sugar babies, it does bor­row a very sim­i­lar con­cept. Women can cre­ate a pro­file for free that out­lines what they’re look­ing for, includ­ing where they like to eat. Men can then make dat­ing offers, but must first put down a finan­cial deposit before any offline meet­ing takes place.

The sugar daddy logic behind the dat­ing site is that women are pre­sum­ably already invest­ing so much in the dat­ing game, like pay­ing for new clothes and shoes, hair­styling, and beauty prod­ucts. That’s why the man should pick up the bill at the end of the night. Just like sugar babies are expected to look top-notch for their sugar daddy, it’s assumed that when you go out on a date, you’re going to invest in look­ing your best.

While the dat­ing site is being touted as a legit­i­mate match­mak­ing ser­vice for food lovers, oth­ers are slam­ming it as just another means for “gold dig­gers” to latch on and take advan­tage of rich men. But at the end of the day, the rich man has made the con­scious deci­sion to join the dat­ing site, which means he has no prob­lem spend­ing his money on dates. So, what’s the prob­lem? It’s a good con­cept if you think about it—all it does is bring two peo­ple together who are both inter­ested in being in a rela­tion­ship with one another. It also clears up that con­stant con­fu­sion of who’s going to dish out for that fancy din­ner date.

What do you think: Would you be insulted if your date didn’t pick up the tab on your first din­ner date?


Prisco, J., “Chivalry or Sugar Daddy: Pay-to-Date Sites Go Main­stream,” ABC News web site, Novem­ber 1, 2013; http://goo.gl/o4tfLj.

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About Isabella

I was never patriotic, so when Independence Day came, the last thing on my mind was to go out and celebrate. I was bored and I was lonely, and though they weren’t my normal crowd, thesse girls were friends and family members who I grew up with. But Diana had her man, Marsha had hers, and my cousin Lisa had her own. I was the only one who was single and my taste was just too high; the kind of men they dated did not appeal to me. I wanted the executive, the entrepreneur. I was 22 and unhappy about my life. I yearned to be in a relationship; I felt I had so much to give a man, and yet I was single. My friends and I waited for cab and I was still second-guessing whether or not I really wanted to go out. While we were waiting, an older looking gentleman driving a blue pick-up truck drove up to us. As he slowed, he said, “Don’t move. I’m coming right back!” He drove off, leaving a trail of his cologne, as he sped away to drop off the construction workers sitting in the back of the truck. Literally moments later, he came back, stopped in front of us, asked us where we were going, and told us to get in. It turns out his name was Keith. After Keith dropped us off, I realized I didn’t want to stay and asked him to take me back to where he picked us up from. He turned, looked at me, and said, “You were the reason why I picked you all up. I wanted to get to know you. So, I’m happy you decided to leave with me.”